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The current energies are bringing up so much gunk and sludge in the collective, judging by the posts in my own Twin Flame Tribe and other online groups. Lots of deep ego stuff and control issues are getting triggered that if you aren’t careful will take you down the rabbit hole before you know it, drowning in puddles of low vibe negativity and self pity.
Especially this Venus retrograde is asking us to release victim identification.
Time to shift the energy and nothing that shifts the energy better than an attitude of gratitude!
If you are new to this website I highly recommend that you download the free Inner Union Soul Alchemy manuscript. Reading it will give you a better understanding of the Twin Flame journey and why this is meant to be so much more than just another ‘boy meets girl’ love story.
Shifting your perspective
Let’s start off with some simple law of attraction basics, what we focus on grows – so if things are going down hill fast and we don’t like where things are headed, we need to shift our perspective.
Instead of feeding what we don’t want to experience with our focus and intention, we need to focus on what we do want more of.
Easy enough you might think, but the trick is that we often have to do it in the absence of (seeing) what we want to be our physical reality. Which directly makes it a lot more difficult, especially when we don’t understand that reality is subjective and completely depends on what we believe and hold to be true inside of us.
We are taught that reality is this fixed state of being that is the same for everyone, but that’s not true. Reality is much more subjective than we think, sure a lot of elements are a shared experience with the rest of the world but many elements of our experienced reality are an individual experience and a direct reflection of our own subconscious thoughts and beliefs being mirrored back to us.
Think about the quality of our life, the work we do as self-expression, the relationships we have with others, our intimate relationships, where we live and what kind of building we live in, our health and body, clean air, fresh food/water and last but not least our relationship to money.
The color of the sky is pretty constant, as is gravity here on planet Earth, but the above mentioned elements are completely custom created experiences based on your own (subconscious) beliefs.
Taking ownership of your reality
As I was explaining to an Akashic Record Clearing client who booked a session to work on her money blocks:
Everything we experience is ALWAYS self inflicted.
We aren’t poor in a lifetime because someone did that to us, instead it’s a choice we make of our own free will. Sometimes out of curiosity, sometimes out of guilt for being a righteous you know what with money in a previous lifetime, but even more often we choose to be poor because of past-life trauma.
Say in a past life you were killed or like me put in a mental asylum in order for your family to get their hands on your money, having money is going to scare the sh*t out of you because all your subconscious mind remembers is that money is NOT safe and having money cost you dearly way, way back…
But that’s the funny thing about the subconscious mind, it only knows NOW so whether that trauma happened 10 lifetimes back or only 3 reincarnations ago – the subconscious mind still thinks ‘the lesson learned‘ from the experience aka your wrong conclusion that it’s not safe to have money still applies to your current reality.
When this happens we talk about a past life bleeding through in your current lifetime.
95% of your reality is dictated by subconscious beliefs, some of which are very supportive and are working in your favor but some are definitely outdated and ready to be re-evaluated. So they are played out in your physical reality in order for you to be able to re-evaluate them and heal the (past life) traumas that caused them.
This means that only 5% of your reality subjective is to your conscious direction, which corresponds to our feelings of being a victim of circumstances.
However, we aren’t a victim of circumstances. Instead we have become a victim of our own subconscious programming. Except that you can’t really be a victim of yourself, because if it is all self-inflicted this also means that you had the power to change your reality all along.
You just weren’t aware of it because you were programmed over lifetimes and lifetimes to believe that you are powerless and a victim of circumstances.
Nothing will change until you own the mess you have created up till now running on old faulty programming, that gave you the output you are currently experiencing as your physical reality. You were not dealt a rotten hand in life. Nobody did this to you. There is no-one to blame, not even yourself because blame get’s us nowhere – it just keeps you stuck where you are.
The only way out is to realize your mistake, forgive yourself and start seeing life from this new vantage point.
How your Twin Flame fits into this picture?
Depending on where you are at in your Twin Flame journey, you are either in or going into the phase of being completely pissed off with your twin for ‘hurting’ you the way you feel he or she has.
Call it the runner/chaser stage or maybe you are already in full blown separation, just know your twin is not keeping you at a distance because he or she doesn’t love you (enough). They are pulling back, because their pulling back triggers your subconscious wounding.
This is a very valuable time in your journey because your Twin Flame is helping you by triggering all of your faulty old programming that is ready to not only be re-evaluated but also massively upgraded.
The ego wants to scream ‘F*ck you and the horse you rode in on!‘ when your twin triggers the hell out of you, but the soul is grateful because it sees it as an opportunity to embody more of itself in the physical reality.
There is NO NEED to wait for a next lifetime for union because your twin doesn’t seem to be cooperating, all you need to do is drop the victim mentality. Your twin isn’t the problem, you are. Your twin is holding up their end of the deal by triggering you and you promised to lead the way in the healing process.
So instead of b*tching about the dude or girl, you should actually thank them for helping you become aware of what isn’t working in your life anymore.
This of course asks you to make a massive shift in perspective again, because most likely at this moment you are only acutely aware of the lack of romance that is showing up in your reality. You are hyper focused on all the ways that your twin is NOT showing their love for you, the way you expect them to do so conform what society told us love should look like.
However if your guy or girl would give you what you want so dearly right now, they can’t help you reach the soul growth you both agreed you would help each other attain in this lifetime. You might not believe it at this moment, but there will come a time that you will thank the Universe on your bare knees that union didn’t happen when you thought it should have happened, because you realize that you could have never become who you are now without the experiences that brought you here.
Your twin’s wishy-washiness, running away, holding off contact and lack of romantic involvement are the experiences that help you remember who you truly are. Often people respond to my articles saying, if someone acts in such ways it’s not a Twin Flame because they believe that a Twin Flame relationship is the epitome of romance.
My answer is that all people who have made amazing shifts in consciousness and experienced life-changing transformations, have had to overcome great challenges that were the catalysts of their shifts in consciousness and their transformations. Not one person woke up one day and had made a 180 degree turn-around in life out of nowhere and without anything that challenged them to rise above themselves.
Those challenges turned out to be a blessing in disguise and the same can be said for your Twin Flame who seems to be the one, creating the hold up in your union. But it’s that hold up, that challenges you to rise above yourself as well and become your true self. In reality you and your twin have handpicked the challenges and obstacles to overcome prior to being born, in order to wake up to your true soul self in this lifetime.
When I look back to who I was when I met my twin and who I have become through embracing this journey and my willingness to ride it out, no matter what the outcome – I can only say that I am so immensely grateful for where I am now in my life. I also fully realize that if my twin would have come any sooner, I would not be where I am today. We might be married and trying to make it work, but I would not be who I am now and neither would he. We had to have the experiences we have had, which included him getting married to someone else to come to the place we are today.
We reached union in 5D at the Fall Equinox, when I was at the Pyramids in Giza. It took massive work on myself to get here. Not that I needed to ‘earn’ or improve myself to be good enough for union, but because there was so much gunk and sludge from previous lifetimes that was keeping me out of alignment with my true self and my Divine partner.
This October 11th 2018 was another pivotal date in our timeline as I reconnected to my higher self and am now starting to fully embody my higher self in the physical, just to give you an idea of where this journey will take you.
I felt an energetic pyramid forming from my root and crown chakra with the top of the pyramid at the heart chakra, this pyramid was creating perfect alignment within me. Once I was perfectly aligned, I started receiving ancient Egyptian high priestess energy and a high priestess crown was placed on my head (this was why I had to actually travel to Egypt for an important past life soul retrieval). This energy flowed into my body and then connected me back to the cosmos. After the session it took days for my body to integrate this extremely high energy that had been influxed along with loads of gold light.
This experience shows that before we can become one, with our Divine Counterpart in the physical we first need to become one in ourselves in the physical. I had already reached inner union in 5D earlier this year.
This doesn’t mean that all twin couples have to wait to be together in a physical relationship, until you are one within. Some couples can do much of this work together, it all depends on their individual wounding and if they need distance or closeness to trigger it. Due to our past life wounding, my twin and I needed distance in order to get to this point but that does not have to apply to your Twin Flame journey.
However becoming one within, before becoming one without does apply for everyone because you cannot become one with someone else without first becoming one within. What you see outside of you, is always a reflection of what you have attained within.
Despite outer appearances
I would not have gotten here if I had continued to moan and whine about why my twin wasn’t giving me what I wanted from him, even though I knew he wanted a and they lived happily ever after with me too.
He even told me so when we spoke to each other for the first time since I left India, on his third month wedding anniversary. He told me he didn’t know if he would ever leave his marriage, but he promised me if he would, he would be on a plane to me the very next day!
And then only a couple of weeks later he stopped talking to me again…..
I would have not gotten where I am today, if I would have stayed stuck (focused) on how wrong and unfair his behavior was. It was clear that his behavior was f*cked up from begin to end, but focusing on his faults wasn’t going to change a thing. It often only made things even worse between us.
So instead I focused on me and what his undesired behavior triggered in me and how that showed me where I was not the person I wanted to be or the partner I wanted to be in a relationship with him or someone else.
That’s what often makes gratitude hard because we are asked to refocus our attention despite NOT seeing what we want.
It’s easy to be grateful when things are going the way we want them too. But in order to turn the tide when things are going downhill fast, we need to practice gratitude despite the fact that our outer reality is not reflecting back to us what we would like to see. Our 3D programming will want to stay focused on the negatives, but that really gets us nowhere. So instead we need to take charge and start seeing the good in everything.
This will be hard at first, because what isn’t working is glaring us in the face – and we fail to see what is working because all our focus is directed at the elephant in the room.
So we need a tool for this and this is what I start all of my Twin Flame Tribe members on in the very first module of Inner Union Soul Alchemy Program. I have them start a gratitude journal in which they list 3 things every night before they go to bed that they are grateful for. It is vital that you write it down and not only do it in your head, because the vibrational frequency of the words in your journal have an extra potent effect that will attract more goodies in your life to be grateful for.
By doing this every single night (just as you brush your teeth) before bed, you start shifting your energy powerfully because you train yourself to focus and count the good in your life. The more you do this, the more good you attract. Counting your blessings, makes you a magnet for blessings because you are letting the Universe know this is what you want more of.
When you moan and whine about not getting what you want, it only attracts more of what you don’t want in your reality experience. It is very counterproductive, despite the fact that reason will be on your side. All your friends and family will tell you you are right to kick your twin to the curb, because they treat you so poorly or ignore you. But being right, gets lonely…
Because twins have an interesting dynamic going on between them, that will blow your mind. The healing one twin does, has a knock-on effect on the other.
The more I perfected my love and myself on my twin, the more he confirmed my shift in focus. Every time we reconnected he had followed suit in the shift I had made. When I first told him we were Twin Flames, he wasn’t at all sure about that. Now 4 years later when I explain that the opening of his 3rd eye and feeling pulled into his spirituality despite the fact that he doesn’t pray or meditate is because he is energetically connected to me and that I have done massive work since we last saw each other, he reacted with ‘I knew it had something to do with you!’ When I asked him how he knew, he said I could feel it was connected to you.
Big shifts like this are possible for you too, but you have to do the work. I didn’t get here by having my cards read and listening to guided meditations. I got here by working with a multitude of healers that also called me out on my crap and by staying in gratitude during the process. Throughout my journey I have always come back to the conclusion, that if this was all this connection was meant to do in my life than I am already so grateful that I met this man and fell in love with him – Because knowing him has changed my life for the good in so many ways.
I pray that reading this article will help you shift your perspective in life and on your Twin Flame journey. Gratitude is the ultimate frequency booster and you can’t stay anchored in 5D without it. Adopting an attitude of gratitude will not just shift your Twin Flame connection, like it has mine – it will completely transform your life.
If you are interested and excited to know how we can help you in your Twin Flame journey and Ascension process, check out the Tribe Mystery School for modern-day Initiates on the Twin Flame and Ascension path. In our signature program, the Inner Union Soul Alchemy Program we walk you step by step through the process of coming into inner union with your own soul. Inner union, is a prerequisite for true Twin Flame union and creating ‘Heaven on Earth’ from the inside out. You can also book an Akashic Record Clearing to release deep pain and trauma (including fears and false beliefs) from this and previous lifetimes.
Sending you love and light on your Ascension path and Divine partnership journey, you are forever protected and guided. All is well.
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