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The red thread of fate principle explained
The Red Thread of Fate (simplified Chinese: 姻缘红线; traditional Chinese: 姻緣紅線; pinyin: Yīnyuán hóngxiàn), also referred to as the Red Thread of Marriage, and other variants, is an East Asian belief originating from Chinese legend.
According to this myth, the gods tie an invisible red cord around the ankles of those that are destined to meet one another in a certain situation or help each other in a certain way.
Often, in Japanese and Korean culture, it is thought to be tied around the little finger. According to Chinese legend, the deity in charge of “the red thread” is believed to be Yuè Xià Lǎorén (月下老人), often abbreviated to Yuè Lǎo (月老), the old lunar matchmaker god, who is in charge of marriages.
The two people connected by the red thread are destined lovers, regardless of place, time, or circumstances. This magical cord may stretch or tangle, but never break. This myth is similar to the Western concept of soulmate or a destined flame.
*Wikipedia authors are not aware of the difference between a soulmate and a Twin Flame connection.
A red thread of fate story
One story featuring the red thread of fate involves a young boy. Walking home one night, a young boy sees an old man (Yue Xia Lao) standing beneath the moonlight. The man explains to the boy that he is attached to his destined wife by a red thread.
Yue Xia Lao shows the boy the young girl who is destined to be his wife. Being young and having no interest in having a wife, the young boy picks up a rock and throws it at the girl, running away.
Many years later, when the boy has grown into a young man, his parents arrange a wedding for him. On the night of his wedding, his wife waits for him in their bedroom, with the traditional veil covering her face. Raising it, the man is delighted to find that his wife is one of the great beauties of his village. However, she wears an adornment on her eyebrow.
He asks her why she wears it and she responds that when she was a young girl, a boy threw a rock at her that struck her, leaving a scar on her eyebrow. She self-consciously wears the adornment to cover it up.
The woman is, in fact, the same young girl connected to the man by the red thread shown to him by Yue Xia Lao back in his childhood, showing that they were connected by the red thread of fate.
How the red thread of fate applies to Twin Flames
Contrary to a soulmate connection, of which you can have many, that manifest in all different ways both romantically as in any other relationship possible in your life – a Twin Flame connection is unique.
There is only ever ONE Twin Flame and you identify this person as ‘The One’ – your true love.
Your romantic dreams come true do NOT depend on meeting your Twin Flame, a soulmate relationship can also be very satisfying and loving and can last a lifetime. In fact it would be a mistake to think that meeting your Twin Flame is just another ‘boy meets girl’ love story as it is meant to be so much more. Please download the free Inner Union Soul Alchemy manuscript for a better understanding of the Twin Flame journey.
However what really sets the Twin Flame connection apart though is not the fact that there is only one as opposed to many possible soulmates, what sets it apart is the unbreakable bond between Twin Flames that does not depend on time spent apart, miles between you or anything else.
A soulmate connection does not rely on such a deep bond and although the love is deep, we are not connected to a soulmate in the way we are connected to our Twin Flames. There is NO unbreakable bond between soulmate lovers.
On the other hand the bond between Twin Flames is truly indestructible and keeps the two connected throughout all time, space and dimensions. Their bond was created at the beginning of time and not just prior to this incarnation, it was built to last throughout your whole soul’s evolution and not just this lifetime you are living now.
Why the red thread of fate can never be severed
It is actually not exactly a red thread that bonds us with the Twin Flame, but a golden cord that runs from their heart chakra to yours and visa versa.
No one can sever this cord, not even the Twin Flame couple themselves. Cord cutting of any kind even by extremely powerful healers will never be able to cut the connection between Twin Flames. In fact any attempts often only work as a powerful reset to the connection, which connects the couple deeper.
Free will plays no role in this connection either, at least not in the physical realm, free will exists on a soul level only and once the twin pair has incarnated here on earth the soul agreement cannot be altered as the soul chose this experience and both higher selves agreed to the soul’s plan before they were born.
It might seem that one of the two is exerting ‘free will’ by denying the connection or being otherwise romantically involved with someone other than their Twin Flame. Although it may appear as though this person is free of the connection and could care less about his or her Divine counterpart, this is an illusion because despite all their attempts to break the spell the other has on them – even when with a karmic or soulmate partner they have been unable to break the bond that connects them to their Twin Flame.
Because it is a bond made by the soul, no human can alter it.
The reason why this cord is inseverable, is because above all it is an energetic connection on a soul level and therefore it is beyond the intention realm of those in the physical form. Only the soul’s intention can affect the connection as the soul intended the unbreakable bond to begin with, to insure the experience it intended to have in this lifetime.
This is also what the Bible refers to in Matthew 19:6:
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
This includes both twins in human form. Often this is the biggest fear for Twin Flames, that the connection could be in anyway lost or be severed by the free will choice of the other. But this is actually what makes a Twin Flame connection, this energetic cord that cannot be severed and cannot be denied even when one tries.
Why you and your Twin Flame are connected by the red thread of fate
The Wikipedia intro to the red thread of fate principle already stated that the red thread of fate was tied by the Gods around the ankles of those that are destined to meet one another in a certain situation or help each other in a certain way.
This is exactly why Twin Flames are brought together because you are destined to meet and because you are meant to help each other in a certain way.
As I have described in the Twin Flame reunion stages, Twin Flames are not so much brought together to be a romantic couple (which does NOT mean that you won’t be) but foremost they are brought together to initiate an inner transformation that gives them individual access to the 5th dimension and living Heaven on Earth.
All the back and forth in the Twin Flame connection, the push/pull dynamic only serves to bring up everything that needs to be cleared out in order to be able to enter this new state of consciousness that is also necessary to align to the physical manifestation of the union.
Though many think that the romantic coming together with the Twin Flame is the be all end all of this journey, it is in fact the shift into the 5D unity consciousness that is the true gift of the Twin Flame connection.
Physical union with the twin is a mere byproduct of the consciousness shift.
Without the unbreakable bond, the red thread of fate that connects the two Twin Flames, the journey can easily become so painful, fearful or otherwise difficult – that one or both would want to opt-out (something that many Divine feminines moan and groan about in Twin Flame groups).
It is the inseverable bond that keeps the Twin Flame couple connected through their darkest hour and makes it possible to achieve the almost seemingly impossible task the soul came to achieve, to come home to the self.
The red thread of fate is the key to your Twin Flame connection
Because this cord is meant to see you through your soul’s evolution throughout all time, space and dimensions it is in fact the key to your Twin Flame connection. Because it’s this energetic cord that keeps you aligned to each other no matter what.
It makes sure that you can never lose each other or that the one part evolves higher/faster than the other. Like an umbilical cord between mother and child, the energetic cord that connects Twin Flames keeps the two separate parts of the soul (the Twin Flame couple) in balance to each other and forces the other to level up when their Divine counterpart makes a jump in consciousness.
Does it also work the other way around, some of you may ask in fear? Can my twin pull me down in consciousness? Yes, in theory it can work both ways but that would only happen when you choose to give away your power. As long as you are forging ahead on your path and standing in your power, you will pull your twin to level up to you.
As you may have experienced by now, any attempts to force romance often backfires and makes your Twin Flame only move away further from you. Any form of force or manipulation in 3D or in 5D simply does not work. The only thing that will change any hopeless 3D situation is doing the inner work which through the energetic cord – your red thread of fate to your Twin Flame will have a knock-on effect on them in a way that will astound you.
When you do your inner work, your Twin Flame no matter how much they may have tried to fight their connection with you – will be drawn into their own healing.
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Everything else follows from there.
Sending you love and light on your Ascension path and Divine partnership journey, you are forever protected and guided. All is well.
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