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When you think you have met the love of your life….
Meeting your Twin Flame here on planet Earth is knowing that you have met ‘ the One’, this is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with and whether they admit it or not – they feel the same way about you.
With two people so into each other, you would think that your happily ever after with this person is a done deal. It has to be a given, how could it not be – when you complete each other so perfectly?
Yet, for the overwhelming majority of the Twin Flame collective coming into a blissful union with their twin is not just a matter of months, despite all the union guided meditations and activations being sold that obviously don’t work (you will understand why later). Instead for most Twin Flames it takes years and sometimes even decades to get their happily ever after with their Divine counterpart.
But I’ll let you in on a little known secret, also those together with their Twin Flame are often not having the blissful union that they hoped for. This is because both closeness and distance are two sides of the same coin that the souls use to trigger (read an article about triggering here) deep subconscious wounding, that stands in the way of the true unity and union that is possible within a Twin Flame connection.
For those who are not together with their Divine counterpart, they will find that they are encountering one or more of these classic Twin Flame obstacles (that I have written about before here).
These obstacles show up as:
- a large age difference
- long distance between them
- cultural differences
- religious differences
- racial differences
- unethical relationships (doctor/patient, lawyer/client, employer/employee, etc.)
- class differences
- a different sexual orientation (one is gay, the other heterosexual)
- same sex twins
- mental illness or addiction (read this article here to find out why these are obstacles)
- existing or new third party relationships
- death/disembodiment (not being alive in this lifetime)
Why are most Twin Flames being held apart?
So, why is it that even though Twin Flames experience this ‘out of this world‘ love when they meet that it seems that they have the odds stacked against them? Why can’t they simply overcome the challenges and obstacles they face and be together?
The answer to this is complex and there is a lot to unpack here, in order to understand why romance is not even the goal of the Twin Flame journey – despite the fact that it was the promise of romance that got us hooked in, in the first place.
You see our souls use our Twin Flames as a dangling carrot, to get us to do the inner work. As Twin Flames we have come to usher in the new age of Aquarius and bring in new templates and light codes to assist humanity and planet Earth in the higher dimensional shift, we currently find ourselves in – the shift from the old 3D paradigm to the new 5th dimensional frequency of Heaven on Earth.
We are prompted to do the inner work, not because we are broken and so on – but because we need to remove our own old 3D paradigm programming first in order to be able to bring in these higher human (homo luminous aka Divine human) templates and light codes. You cannot bring in the new, without extracting the old first and that is what the inner work entails that we are called to do.
This is why no matter how valuable in and of themselves meditating, doing yoga, going vegan, practicing mudras, chanting mantras, soundbaths, journaling, listening to guided meditations and yes even working with crystals or energy medicine like Bach Flowers is not enough…
They can definitely support your healing process, but they cannot replace working with actual healers that help you release your subconscious fears and false beliefs.
Students of the Twin Flame Tribe Mystery School, get direct access to the team of healers that have supported me on my own Twin Flame and Ascension journey. There are so many people peddling BS within the Twin Flame industry and this applies for the healing modalities being offered as well for the readings and guided ‘union’ meditations and activations being sold.
Much of what is being sold is selling you what you want, but not what you need. Seriously, you are not going to overwrite subconscious programming by simply telling your subconscious mind to ‘clear all karma’, that is wishful thinking.
You are also not going to come into ‘union’ by someone, overlaying you and your twin’s energy field and connecting your chakras. You can’t simply energetically force ‘union’ because you want it so badly. You are violating spiritual law when you engage in such practices, you should not force what is meant to happen naturally.
How do I know?
I spent a sloppy 5K on BS energy sessions such as these, that didn’t change a thing within my Twin Flame connection (of course not, because you can’t bypass the inner work). Until I understood, that you cannot force what is meant to be because force, manipulation and so on are old 3D paradigm constructs that we are meant to release.
The people offering these sessions, will tell you that this is all being done in accordance with free will but here’s the thing – you can’t polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter. There are a lot of people saying one thing, but then doing another and it is up to our own discernment to not get pulled in with beautiful sounding words and phrases that promise utopia, but don’t deliver. Sadly enough, this is what the Twin Flame industry is built on – 99% of the Twin Flame products and services are selling you the romantic dream come true and it is super tempting to buy into that….
But there is a higher purpose, to your current Twin Flame experience, there is a very good reason why the romantic outcome is being postponed the way it is.
We are modern-day initiates on the Ascension path
In order to see this higher purpose, there is an even bigger picture that needs to be seen here, the Twin Flame journey does not stand alone. It is part of a grander process, that goes far beyond romantic love.
As Twin Flames, we are modern-day initiates on the Ascension path.
But, what does that mean?
It means that our day to day experiences, our every day life has become our Ascension school.
In the ancient days there were many Mystery schools, that adepts were trained in that used rituals and rites of passage of which many would be considered illegal in today’s world. In our modern society, we cannot go sit on a mountain top, swim in a pool with alligators or be lowered down into a pit of snakes. Anyone offering such adrenaline rushes today, would be shut down immediately if there would be any real danger or even worse resulted deaths.
Instead the Universe and our souls use our everyday life to initiate us into higher states of consciousness and higher states of being and the Twin Flame journey, is a unique initiation path on its own. It’s a fast-track to Ascension simply because it leaves us no choice but to shed all the old paradigm fears and false beliefs that have kept us trapped in the matrix for the past eons and eons.
Another reason why the Twin Flame journey provides us a fast-track to Ascension is because it helps us burn off karma BIG time. According to deceased Ascension and Twin Flame teacher Elizabeth Clare Prophet we only have to balance 51% of our karma in order to ascend.
Through all the triggering that takes place within the Twin Flame connection, our subconscious wounds from previous lifetimes, our subconscious fears and false beliefs are brought up into our conscious awareness. This allows us to heal our false identification of self that we have formed over our hundreds of previous embodiments throughout our soul’s journey. It also allows us to release karmic vibrational residue from our vibrational field that we have been carrying with us for eons and eons, which are attracting the people, situations and circumstances in our lives.
We cannot become homo luminous (Divine humans) without this extraction of all of the old programming that we as homo sapiens were conditioned and programmed as. It’s again this Ascension process that has to take place, this upgrade. But why, can’t we simply be together with our Twin Flames as we are? Why do we need to become a higher version of ourselves to begin with? Because this is our Divine counterpart, or soul counterpart, we are not meant to have an old paradigm 3D romantic love relationships with them.
Now, before you freak out this does not mean that you WILL NOT be together with your Twin Flame in a physical romantic relationship. But at the same time, you cannot rehash the same toxic love patterns with your twin that have not worked in your previous relationships either.
Look around at the people you know around you, who truly has the kind of relationship that you dream of? I bet you many of the couples that you know fight a lot, are disrespectful towards each other, there may be verbal, physical or sexual abuse going on. There is often one partner overtly or covertly controlling the other, or they both do in their own way. There is a lot of lying and cheating going on, manipulating. There may be struggles with addictions to food, drugs, alcohol, porn, shopping, not to mention codependency and more.
But you think you and your Twin Flame are going to be different, because your love for each other is soul deep. Yet, here is the thing. A relationship is ALWAYS the sum of two people and if you have not gotten rid of the skeletons in your closet from this lifetime (including your childhood) and previous lifetimes then just like everybody else – all that stuff is going to get triggered IN your most intimate relationships (including with your Twin Flame).
The reason why most people are in crappy relationships and marriages is because they are playing out their subconscious wounding with their romantic partners. Their partners mirror back to them all their subconscious fears and false beliefs, but there is nobody who reflects back your issues more glaringly than your Twin Flame. If you have not sufficiently dealt with your stuff, which most of us have not – then your twin will bring up all your subconscious wounding which is why most Twin Flame couples are better off with some distance between them.
Why do we need to go through this running, chasing and separation?
No matter what you try, you CANNOT bypass this process. Trust me, I tried close to everything available. There are no short cuts. In fact, despite the fact that we don’t want to hear this – ending up together romantically with the Twin Flame is not even the point.
The point is becoming a homo luminous.
Which is a bigger gift then ANY romantic relationship could ever give you. Those who are together with their Twin Flame, will tell you that being with your twin is not enough. Those not together with their twin, tend to think that being together romantically with the twin will magically fix their lives – but it doesn’t. That is simply a naive and even delusional romantic notion that we cling to out of the deep desire to have our needs met and thinking that our needs can be met externally (which is an old 3D paradigm conditioning to begin with). We can never receive from the outside, what is absent inside, we always have to meet our own needs first.
Which is why we have to go through all of this turmoil within our Twin Flame connection, this is why are they running. This is why you are chasing. And this is why most Twin Flames inevitably end up in separation. Not because they don’t love each other enough. Also not because they aren’t meant to be together. But because THIS is how all the subconscious wounds that need distance, instead of closeness get triggered.
All the classic Twin Flame obstacles, including third party relationships and everything else are THE INITIATIONS on our Ascension path, because they are custom designed to bring up the subconscious wounds for the individual Twin Flame couple.
Although those individual wounds may look different for each couple, the process remains the same. Because the point is to become the higher evolution of our humanness – this homo luminous or light being, and not just end up together with this specific person – the underlying principle is the same for ALL Twin Flames without exception. What can differ is the specific underlying issues (subconscious fears and false beliefs), the obstacles needed to trigger them and the time needed to work through them.
None of what we experience on this journey is random or not how it is supposed to be. Many so-called Twin Flame teacher claim that you don’t have to go through separation or that third party relationships are hijacked timelines, the result of curses, dark forces trying to keep twins out of union and what not. This is all nonsense, it is through these experiences that the deeper layered wounding gets brought into our conscious awareness. There is NOTHING like another woman (or man), to trigger deeply hidden feelings of inadequacy, not feeling good enough or believing that you don’t deserve to be loved. It’s not that the third party, inflicts these wounds on you. It’s that having to deal with a third party, triggers all the places where you ALREADY believed this without even realizing it.
That is the problem in general with subconscious wounding, you don’t know what you don’t know and in the case of everything that is held in the subconscious we only find out what it is – WHEN we bring it into our conscious awareness.
This is why Swiss psychiatrist and founder of psychoanalysis Carl Jung said:
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Our reality experience is literally created from what we believe and hold to be true subconsciously. Our conscious mind only creates 5% of our reality experience, the subconscious mind is the one that dictates our reality experiences for a whopping 95%. This is why when we change our inner beliefs system, we change our outer reality.
The constant push/pull within the Twin Flame connection, helps bring to the surface all the old 3D paradigm programming that stands in the way of us becoming who we truly are and always have been and then incarnated in the flesh – as the Divine human (homo luminous).
The higher union, you are missing out on
I know many of you DO NOT want to hear this, because you want to be with your person so bad. Trust me, I know how you feel. I was where you are now, at one point in my journey and I didn’t want to hear anything other than the guarantee that I would be together with my twin.
This is why the Twin Flame industry is a multi-million dollar industry because it caters to this market demand. There are a thousand and one Twin Flame tarot readers and psychics, that will string you along endlessly in the ups and downs and sudden plot twists to your promised union that is always just about to happen….
There are also a legion of Twin Flame healers and coaches that promise you that if you work with them, that you WILL HAVE the romantic outcome you so deeply desire. Often for insane amounts of money, that are much higher than any of the prices on this website.
All of these methods however keep you believing that your twin and a romantic relationship with them is the grand prize to be won at the end of your struggles and that is BS.
This is because there is a much higher union, that you are missing out on when you focus only on being together with your twin romantically and sexually. And yes, Twin Flame sex can be earth shattering and utterly delicious (although it doesn’t have to be). Also being together with your twin is the best feeling in the world. I know, because this is how my twin and I also feel when we spend time together. It doesn’t seem to get any better than that.
Yet, here I am to tell you that it DOES get better than that and that the ‘end goal’ of this journey is something that will blow your mind. You see the union you so desperately seek to find outside yourself with your beloved, is actually meant to bring you to the higher union that you have been missing out on since the beginning of time and that is the inner union with your soul.
The process of Ascension, is in reality a process of descension. It is through all the inner work done and in the becoming of the homo luminous, the Divine human – that our souls are able to physically incarnate into the body fully and completely. This is not possible as long as our vibrational field is filled with lower frequency emotions that are keeping us stuck in lower states of consciousness and lower states of being. The whole Twin Flame journey prepares you for this Hierogamic union inside yourself, of your higher self and soul with your 3D self and personality.
This is what the ancient alchemists referred to as; as above, so below. When we accomplish this, our outer reality will reflect to us this inner state of being which the ancient alchemists referred to as: as within, so without.
There is no point in chasing an outer union, when the whole point of the Twin Flame journey is to bring you to this inner union. This is what unlocks the gates of Heaven on Earth, for the Kingdom of God is inside of us and not to be found in the arms of a lover – no matter how much we want to believe it is.
I pray this article has given you a deeper understanding of the Twin Flame journey and the Ascension process. Yes, this is the love of a lifetime. Yes, this is the person that you want to grow old with. Yes, of course you deeply desire a romantic outcome with your person and that is exactly WHY, the Twin Flame journey is used by your souls and the Universe to bring you home to yourself.
You could even say that the journey itself, prepares you to BE the Divine counterpart to your Twin Flame because you have let go of all the wounds, fears and false beliefs that were obstructing your true nature. It prepares you to be able to have and to hold a 5th dimensional Divine partnership, by first teaching you to access the 5th dimension on your own. Instead of believing that your entry to Heaven on Earth lies in the hands of another.
If you are interested and excited to know how we can help you in your Twin Flame journey and Ascension process, check out the Tribe Mystery School for modern-day Initiates on the Twin Flame and Ascension path. In our signature program, the Inner Union Soul Alchemy Program we walk you step by step through the process of coming into inner union with your own soul. Inner union, is a prerequisite for true Twin Flame union and creating ‘Heaven on Earth’ from the inside out. You can also book an Akashic Record Clearing to release deep pain and trauma (including fears and false beliefs) from this and previous lifetimes.
Sending you love and light on your Ascension path and Divine partnership journey, you are forever protected and guided. All is well.
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