Union, the golden carrot on the Twin Flame journey. Why your twin is just the ‘bait’…

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We are all hoping for the romantic outcome, but it’s not what this journey is about

When you are on the Twin Flame journey, it is highly likely that you dream of a romantic outcome and to be honest I don’t actually know anyone, teacher or a fellow journey traveler that ever reaches a point that they don’t want to be with their twin deep down inside.

Many people may temporarily go through a phase of pushing or shoving away their twin, but they are only pushing and shoving them away, because they aren’t getting what they want and hope to somehow break the spell by force.

But pushing and shoving is all still part of the runner/chaser dynamic which of course serves a much deeper purpose than getting you hooked up or hitched with the guy or girl of your dreams, all that pushing and pulling serves to trigger the deeper wounding that is keeping you out of harmony in your own life and as a Twin Flame couple.

This journey is simply not just another ‘Boy meets girl’ love story, now don’t freak out it DOES NOT mean that it’s only meant to be spiritual 5D woo-woo stuff that goes far beyond your understanding or that you won’t end up together.

Romance can definitely be on the Twin Flame menu, it just is not the main course. If you want to understand what the Twin Flame journey is really about, download the free Inner Union Soul Alchemy manuscript to understand why this journey has so much more to offer you than even, the romance of a lifetime.

It’s time to stop glorifying union

Last week’s article about coming full circle on the Twin Flame journey, may have triggered many of you. One girl got so triggered on social media that she wrote me that other Twin Flame teachers teach union because they ARE in union and I am not and that is why I don’t teach union. In other words she tried to shame me, because she felt that only people IN UNION should be talking about it.

Listen up, it’s time to stop glorifying union people because the fact that someone is in a physical relationship with their twin does NOT equal union and it also does not mean they are further along or know something that you don’t (although that could be true).

I know plenty of other Twin Flame teachers and I do not know one couple at this moment that can say they are in a true harmonious Twin Flame union, even if they are in a romantic relationship with their twin.

In fact most of them are not ‘together’ with their Twin Flame in the way they would like to be. Not everyone is that transparent about the status of their own connection as I am and they don’t have to be. My journey has always been meant to be high profile, in order to serve the Twin Flame collective and create a path for others to follow.

Teaching union, is not about glorifying the physical aspect of being together as a romantic couple. My background is marketing, I know the game and I am telling you that if someone is dangling UNION in front of you, it’s because they know that is what you want. They’re luring you in with the bait, that they know you will take – because they know you crave union with your twin.

Even I use it in my marketing, because I know it is important to you. I know you want a romantic outcome with your twin most of all, because it’s what I have wanted out of this journey with my beloved and it’s what my clients want out of their journeys.

We ALL want union – because the journey was set up that way (more about this later).

But it’s not teaching union when you glorify the romantic connection, reaching the union stage of this journey is so much more than being able to be together with your Twin Flame in the physical 24/7.

Now you might be thinking ‘Sabriyé, I bet you are only saying this because you are not in union though?! You must just be jealous of their bliss.’

Uhm no, I love it when Twin Flames come together and can continue their journey as a couple. It’s what I want for all of us, no one excluded.

True at this stage I am not preaching that being with your twin is the be all end all of this journey and I never will, not even when I am in physical union myself will I preach this – because it’s a very codependent teaching in it’s essence.

You wonder why, even renowned teachers are still teaching this BS…

But think about it, how can physical union be the reward of this journey?!

It would just emphasize the false belief that only union with the twin will make you, whole, complete, happy…lalala. When you believe this, you believe that ALL these things are found outside of you – which is a lie. It’s not true. This belief is the cause of all your suffering.

True union teaching tells us that when we have found ALL these things inside of ourselves, they will be reflected back to us in our 3rd dimensional physical reality.

So what do you want to believe, the toxic idea that the answer to all your dreams come true – lies outside of you in another person who is most likely running away from you?


That all you seek in life comes from within and that all you need to do to access Heaven on Earth, is go within and give yourself what you previously tried to get from the other?

It’s tempting when you see that someone has what you want to have, to think that they have it made but for all you know they are just two people f*cking each other, believing they are each other’s Twin Flame. I mean no disrespect here for couples in union, but I want to make you aware of who and what you are putting on a pedestal.

I’m going to be dead-honest with you here because unless a union is based on an outer reflection of what has been attained within, there is going to be trouble in paradise anyway.

This is governed by cosmic law, because anything that is sought outside of you will be met with it’s absence in the physical world. If it’s missing inside of you, it will be missing outside of you as well – since everything outside of us, is but a reflection of what we believe and hold to be true inside of us.

People teaching that the epitome of union is the physical love relationship with the twin are clearly trippin, they themselves are still stuck in their own codependent romantic love fantasies because otherwise they wouldn’t be telling you that your Heaven on Earth lies outside of you.

Don’t get me started on this whole your twin is YOU, BS or merging into One crap because unless you are ready to merge with the other 7.something billion souls walking the earth – you aren’t close to unity consciousness.

You are still playing the game of ‘special’ – a game the ego loves to play. There is no such thing as special, because in God’s eyes we are all equally special.

Teaching union is not about glorifying the physical love relationship with your special someone, it’s teaching that this romantic relationship with your twin or someone better will slide in by itself when you work towards the unification of YOU within.

It’s when you start to become whole and complete within yourself that the twin will come rushing back or not….

But it doesn’t matter because by then, you will be a match for the true love you thought you found in the twin and it will manifest itself in your life in the most perfect way with your Twin Flame or someone else.

How could anyone be better than my Twin Flame?!

I know, I know, you cannot imagine anyone more perfect and more special than your Twin Flame.

This is THE ONE for you.

I know quite well how you feel, because I have felt the same about my twin in the past and I have worked with thousands of clients who also feel or felt this way about their twin.

This is one of the biggest blocks to true union that most Divine feminines subconsciously create, by making their twin a demi-god and putting them high on a pedestal. It doesn’t work and energy wise when you do this, which is in fact playing the special game (and the Divine masculines do it as well) – you place the other person out of your league.

Once you place someone out of your league, you can’t have them because you have umpteenth reasons why YOU don’t deserve to be with them of which almost all of them are deeply lodged in your subconscious – so you aren’t even consciously aware of believing them about yourself.

In order to neutralize this, one of the first things I start with is opening my client’s energy to this or something better…. I teach them it’s not the person they want, but the feeling. So the focus should also be on manifesting that feeling and leaving the WHO and HOW to the Universe, to bring it in more quickly.

Because everything we clutch onto, the Universe will knock right out of our tight grip not because we don’t deserve to have it – but because we need to be OKAY without it.

As soon as our lives ‘depend on it’ we are creating energetic congestion around the very thing we want. Sarah Prout also a sincere Florence Scovel Shinn lover, wrote a very good article about this, that you can read here.

Yes, it’s f*cking BIG and overwhelming

So if this Twin Flame journey is not about making babies with your twin and marital bliss, then why did I meet this person?! What kind of cruel joke is this, for f*ck sakes? Why was my life turned upside down by them and their image etched into my soul? I think of my twin 24/7. I have never been this obsessed with anyone in my life, ever…

To be honest, your twin is just the bait your soul is dangling in front of you to get you to do the work.

And when I say work, I mean healing all your past (life) trauma’s, releasing all your repressed emotions, letting go of all your false beliefs that are keeping you out of stepping into your power and away from loving yourself.

Now be honest with yourself, would you face all your dragons and demons if you felt you had a choice? No, you wouldn’t and that is where the twin as bait comes in. The soul dangles this ‘special’ out of this world connection in front of your face because it knows you will do ANYTHING it takes to be with this person, even if it means you have to go to hell and back.

So the higher selves create the perfect set-up, you become each other’s bait – even when it seems your twin could actually care less (they care much more deeply than they let on).

It’s all part of the getting you to chase your freaking carrot.

I know when I read stuff like this when I started out on my journey a little over 4 years ago, I would freak out because I thought this could never be done in this ONE lifetime.

I thought ascension was something hard, close to impossible and not for me in this lifespan. In fact my core wounding always kind of made me afraid that ascension equals GAME OVER and that would be the end of it – which would scare the sh*t out of me because I had a past life tape running that I was not very safe in the hands of God.

But the truth is we live in extraordinary times, in which as my mother likes to put it people will be reaching their ascensions from the rooftops, which means last minute mass ascensions will take place. This of course does not fit the idea of being ‘special’ anymore, but this is how it will go.

Ascension will not be hard anymore, it will be easy and it will spread like wildfire.

This is because of the so called 100th monkey effect.

The hundredth monkey effect is a phenomenon in which a new behavior or idea spreads rapidly by unexplained means from one group to all related groups once a critical number of members of one group exhibit the new behavior or acknowledge the new idea.

It’s named after monkeys because that is where this phenomenon was first observed, however this same thing will happen when critical mass is hit on planet earth in regards to ascension.

This is where you get to be a little bit special for a short time, because we as Twin Flames have come to be the front runners of this new ‘being upgraded in real time‘ ascension experience and because of that we can bring in even higher frequency light children.

I can tell you that now 3,5 years later (It took me around 6 months to stop throwing a pity party and get to work) that it wasn’t as hard as I had expected, it wasn’t easy either but it is doable. I have been actively working on my healing since the beginning of my journey in 2014 and I really stepped it up at the end of 2016 when I fully committed to myself and my journey, even when I thought I was committing to my twin.

From October 2016 on I have had multiple healing sessions a month with different coaches and healers which eventually morphed into multiple sessions a week in the end to really blast through my core wounds.

I have now reached a place in my own journey that most if not all the healing work is done and not one, but all seven of my chakras lit up – after working my way through all the wounding that was stored in each one. My coach joked that I lit up like a freaking Christmas tree and one of the reasons for me travelling the world is to activate (and be activated by) the light grids of the places I will be visiting in my upcoming year on the road.

This did not happen to me because I am SPECIAL, it happened because I did the freaking work and so can you. Unlike even only a decade ago, we have our times, including massive ascension energies on our side. The whole Universe is working towards the ascension of this planet and it’s inhabitants and the more people that get lit up, the more ascension will spread all over the world just like the 100th monkey effect.

If you gravitate towards my work it means you are ready to light up as well or already well on your way and maybe need that last push to switch yourself on. There is a reason why you are reading this.

You were guided to read this today, because your soul is ready and wants to get you on the same page.

Do you have to be an Ascended master to be able to reunite with your twin?

So are you telling me I have to be an Ascended master before I am reunited with my Twin Flame?

No, not at all.

You see the souls use distance and closeness  (separation and physical union) to trigger the deeper wounding that needs to be released. If you are done with the separation wounds and this person is your true Twin Flame, you will be moved into closeness to continue what needs to be addressed there.

I know Twin Flames that have not nearly done as much healing as I have, who are together with their Twin Flame. You don’t need to be healed 100%. You don’t have to be perfect or have reached an angelic state to be able to be together with your twin in a physical romantic relationship, you only need to address the subconscious wounds that are keeping you apart.

Our case, I mean my own journey with my twin is different from many, because our Twin Flame journey has also been used to lay out a path for others to follow.

It’s because of this, that I can teach you that being with your Twin Flame is not the reward of this journey – although of course it will rock your world, right?! Come on, the chemistry that twins have going on is insane which is actually part of the problem and what first needs to be harmonized so that you don’t trigger the h*ll out of each other 24/7.

So don’t be discouraged by the fact that my journey is not speed jetting into a romantic outcome, because it says NOTHING about what is possible for you. In fact more and more clients I have worked with or coached are coming into physical union, as you can see in the Gangsta Goddesses Union stats on the side of this page (you may need to scroll up).

Romance does happen, but it never happens because the Divine feminine finally caught the Divine masculine after months of chasing and forced him to commit.

That sh*t seriously DOES NOT work, trust me I have tried and I have heard thousands of stories from my clients who have tried and did not succeed.

What does work you may ask?

What works is working towards inner union and from there everything is but a reflection of what you have achieved inside. This is why I have opened up my personal healing team to my clients both online and locally on the retreats, to give them quality healers to work with on their Twin Flame journey. I have worked with each and everyone of them which saves my clients the trouble and expenses of wading through the many charlatans that are out there.

I wish you loads of success with the tools I have offered you to create the union you dream of.

I hope that stretching your concept of union, will help you start to see what this journey is really about and that it will help you appreciate the gift of love your twin has offered you even more. All their difficult and wishy washy behavior has always meant to do only one thing and that is help you to wake up to the truth of who you are.

No romantic relationship, not even with your Twin Flame will be more satisfying than the feeling of falling head over heels in love with yourself.

That my love, is the journey you have signed up for.

If you are interested and excited to know how we can help you in your Twin Flame journey and Ascension process, check out the Tribe Mystery School for modern-day Initiates on the Twin Flame and Ascension path. In our signature program, the Inner Union Soul Alchemy Program we walk you step by step through the process of coming into inner union with your own soul. Inner union, is a prerequisite for true Twin Flame union and creating ‘Heaven on Earth’ from the inside out. You can also book an Akashic Record Clearing to release deep pain and trauma (including fears and false beliefs) from this and previous lifetimes.

Sending you love and light on your Ascension path and Divine partnership journey, you are forever protected and guided. All is well.

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Lots of love,

Sabriyé Dubrie

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Sabriyé Ayana is the leading expert on the Twin Flame journey and inner union process. As a Twin Flame leader, teacher and healer she helps Twin Flames understand that this journey is not just about creating a fairy-tale and they lived happily ever after together... It's an initiation path to Ascension. Download the free Inner Union Soul Alchemy manuscript to find out more.