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What is the Law of Attraction?
If you have watched the secret or listen to Abraham Hicks, you probably have a clue of what the Law of Attraction is about. What you probably don’t know is that even Jesus and his disciples worked with the Law of Attraction, so it is no way just a New Age concept.
But there is some confusion around the Law of Attraction, because it simply isn’t that you get what you think about. There are all kinds of nuances that are usually overlooked and even more often misunderstood, for example that you attract what you fear. If this were true, flying would be the unsafest means of transportation because it is the most feared transportation. Statistic shows that around 25% of the American population is nervous about flying, yet this doesn’t amount in any spikes in plane crashes.
The truth is that you are much more likely to manifest something that you subconsciously fear (or believe for that matter) than something that you are consciously aware of. Something that most Law of Attraction guru’s don’t know and also don’t teach. Only 5% of our experienced physical reality is created through our conscious desires, the other 95% is created through our subconscious desires, our fears and false beliefs.
Which is why Carl Jung psychiatrist and psychoanalyst said:
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Because it is the unconscious that attracts to us the circumstances of our lives. Which is also why so many people have varying results with the Law of Attraction, because we all carry contradicting beliefs within ourselves. On a conscious level we may feel and believe something to be 100% true, while on a subconscious level we may believe the opposite. These contradicting beliefs often stem from past life trauma.
For example ever since I met my Twin Flame I have felt the conscious desire to be his wife and have a family with him. It wasn’t until recently five and something years after we met, that I uncovered a past life trauma which had me subconsciously believe that I wasn’t capable of being a good wife to him or a good mother to his children, I believed I wasn’t good enough as a woman.
Trauma emotions are emotions on steroids and so they will cancel out any conscious desire because on a subconscious level the trauma belief is accepted as the truth even when it is no longer experienced as true for you today because YOU didn’t have the traumatic experience it stemmed from. Until such a false belief is made conscious and exposed as untrue, it can’t be neutralized and will keep attracting people and situations that match the subconscious belief.
This is because the subconscious mind only knows the self and the now, it doesn’t know anyone outside of you and it also doesn’t differentiate between past and present. Therefor anything it believes is applied to the self it knows now, even if that is not the same ‘self’ that experienced the trauma (i.e. the past life expression of your soul).
So the Law of Attraction, attracts to you (it’s own or) matching vibrational frequency situations, people and experiences and the majority (95%) of the vibrational causes that create your experienced physical reality are things you are NOT consciously aware of.
Why manifestation tools often don’t work on their own
This is also then exactly the reason why many manifestation tools don’t work fully in general and especially not on the Twin Flame journey. Think of visualizing, vision boards, affirmations, journaling, scripting, intention setting and so on. These are all attempts on a conscious level to reprogram the subconscious, but they don’t work if there is a strong contradicting belief held subconsciously that originated from trauma.
My very first experience with this was prior to meeting my Twin Flame, I wanted to break the 5 figures a month revenue. If you are a business owner yourself, you may recognize wanting to bust through the 10K ceiling. For those who don’t have a business and think 10K is a lot of money, understand that from that 10K you pay business tax first, then your business costs and then you pay income tax over the remaining amount. You also need to save for your own pension and take out an insurance in case you get sick. If you aren’t making at least 10K a month your business isn’t actually sustainable and you are better off getting a job in which all this stuff is handled for you.
When I set the intention many years ago to break the 10K ceiling, my life took a turn for the worst. We had no new clients coming in, existing clients stopped paying and because there wasn’t any money coming in I couldn’t cover the business costs or my personal costs. I got behind on my rent. I had to borrow money to buy food. It was a disaster!
What had happened was that my intention to break through the 10K ceiling, had triggered a past life trauma where my family had put me into a mental asylum in order to regain control over the family fortune that I as the male heir and head of the family, was spending foolishly in their eyes. I had not been able to understand what had happened and so I left that life believing ‘that being rich meant losing everything including myself.‘ Something that was being mirrored to me in my 2012 experience because subconsciously I was still afraid of ‘being rich’ due to my traumatic experience 300 years earlier.
I found this past life trauma in a session with a healer, that I couldn’t even pay for at that time and lo and behold in January 2013 a couple of months after that session I broke through the 10K ceiling for the first time in my life. Right after that session, money instantly started flowing again but it took me till January 2013 to get €10.000,- in revenue.
It’s not that the earlier mentioned methods DON’T work, it’s more that they often aren’t enough to fully reprogram the subconscious mind as my example illustrates. They will work for superficial stuff, but not for the things that are being blocked by deep trauma.
How do you know the difference? By the level of resistance that shows up in your physical reality experience. It’s not that the Universe doesn’t want you to have whatever it is that you want, it’s that there is a deeper level of resistance in you that is blocking you from having what you want. So you need to address the inner resistance in order to remove the outer appearance of resistance.
Which can be tricky because when your Twin chooses to be with someone else for example, it almost seems as if that is happening outside of you. But the reality is that if this is happening in your reality experience, it’s because it matches some sort of inner false belief or fear that you need to release first in order to be able to have what you want. Just look at my example of subconsciously believing ‘I wasn’t woman enough.‘ for my twin. Third party relationships are almost always there to help you reconnect to deep repressed false beliefs of not being good enough, or to trigger subconscious patterns of fear of loss.
But the Law of Attraction is working for me and my twin
Often when I share this there is inevitable someone who contradicts me and says, but the Law of Attraction is working for me and my twin. I wished us to be closer and now we are. Or I did such and such meditation/visualization and now my twin is back in my life and we are communicating again.
What you have to understand is that the higher selves use closeness and distance to bring up the subconscious wounding in the Twin Flame couple. There will be episodes of closeness and of distance according to what the couple needs. Even Twin Flames who are married, but not in true Twin Flame union yet are often still separated by ‘fate’ from time to time, in order to work through their individual wounds. Closeness or distance is not a real measure of success on this journey, because it serves a higher purpose (i.e. aligning the Twin Flame couple to inner union).
For example I met my Twin in April 2014 we were close for 1 month and then he ran and he kept running until February 2015 when he had to admit that even being with someone else had not helped him get over me. 2015 was a great year for us, he was very expressive of his true feelings for me and by the end of that year we were sleeping in each other’s arms and intimate with each other (to a certain degree).
By 2016 my Twin shunned me out of his life, blocked me close to everywhere but caved in on his birthday mid year. We remained close in energy but despite that he got married in January 2017 to someone else, by April 2017 he told me that he didn’t know if he would ever leave her but if he did he would be on a plane the very next day to come to me…
This ebb and flow is natural and normal within Twin Flame connections and serves to bring up the deeper subconscious wounding within the Twin Flame couple. Other Twin Flame websites and teachers would have you believe that you can bypass this process and come straight into union. They claim that separation is unnecessary and can be avoided if you only raise your vibrational frequency higher, this is another example of telling you what you want to hear and not what you need to know.
In fact if the Law of Attraction is working like a charm in your Twin Flame connection, you are likely not in a Twin Flame dynamic to begin with. Trust me, I’m not being a Negative Nancy here trying to kill your vibe. If union were the goal of the Twin Flame connection, then yes you would be right. But the Twin Flame journey, is not simply about ending up in a physical romantic relationship with your Twin – it’s a fast-track to Ascension.
You will see that just before you are going to go through massive deep transformation, closeness with the Twin Flame will often occur in order to strengthen the connection and to prepare you for what is to come. I see this with clients and in my own Twin Flame journey, for example I have had multiple suicide past lives in my soul’s timeline. It was a miracle getting invited to India in 2015 and even more of a miracle to be able to be so close and intimate with my Twin Flame under the watchful eye of around 40 Indian family members of his best friend. When my Twin Flame shunned me out of his life in 2016 I lost the will to live and for the first couple of months I was only running on auto-pilot. The only thing that kept me going was my responsibility as a mother to two younger children. I felt completely lost and broken within.
I would have never for one been able to access these deep feelings inside myself without first feeling in real life how REAL our feelings for each other were. We had met online and this was the first time we ever met face to face. Knowing that our feelings for each other were as deep in real life made the shock even go deeper when he shut the door, BUT it was also what carried me through that period of Hell on Earth knowing that he did reciprocate my deep feelings for him. Before I left he had told me that if it was his choice alone, we would be together already and have the baby we both wanted – but he felt obligated to do as his family requested and that would be marry a girl they approved of. I was his senior, twice divorced and single mother of three and he felt his Indian family would not accept me even though none of that mattered to him. Our higher selves orchestrated all of this, the coming together and the ripping us apart because it was what we needed to liberate us from deep past life trauma (which is how it works for everyone).
Because the Twin Flame journey is a fast-track to Ascension, we need to clear our past life karma in order to be able to enter the next stages of Ascension (Check misconception #11 of this article to better understand this).
Many Divine Feminines don’t understand this normal ebb and flow and they can get really cocky when they are in a period of closeness with their Twin Flame, believing that their inner work or working towards union has created their current circumstances. They fail to see that it’s just the normal ebb and flow that brought them together, as they are ready for the next step in their journey.
Or in some cases they were in fact able to force their will on the situation and soon will taste the sour grapes they’ve sown – which I will explain in the section below because forcing your will inevitably always backfires on you. A couple of weeks later these same women (or men) will be devastated because they have hit some roadblock in their Twin Flame connection, that they didn’t see coming because they thought they were heading for union.
Are you only creating more drama & karma?
You can force your will onto reality, but you will always pay a price because you are transgressing spiritual law. When it comes to for example a physical romantic relationship with your Twin Flame, that is an ego desire. Your soul may desire Twin Flame union, but that is not the same thing as having a romantic relationship with your Twin. When you force your will onto reality, what you are doing is forcing your ego desires to supersede your soul’s plans for you. Instead of saying not my will (ego), but thy will (soul) be done, you are saying MY WILL (EGO) not thy will (soul) be done.
When you transgress spiritual law in such a way, you will always get shitty results that do not get you what you want. In other words, you may have the romantic union you so deeply desire but then because you didn’t do the inner work to attain it – you will be left having to work through all your subconscious gunk and sludge up close and personal by playing it out in your connection. I have seen so many examples of this. I met up with one of my followers in Dubai and although they had gone through separation, she had barely done any inner work. They are together now, but she gets triggered left and right because he is talking to other women on his phone. Being with your Twin Flame prematurely is NOT the romantic bliss you dream of.
But you can also create massive karma this way. One of my favorite metaphysical teachers already taught this in the early 1900’s in her book the Game of Life and How To Play it by Florence Scovel Shinn:
‘A woman with a strong personal will, wished she owned a house which belonged to an acquaintance, and she often made mental pictures of herself living in the house. In the course of time, the man died and she moved into the house.
Several years afterwards, coming into the knowledge of Spiritual Law, she said to me: “Do you think I had anything to do with that man’s death?” I replied: “Yes, your desire was so strong, everything made way for it, but you paid your Karmic debt. Your husband, whom you loved devotedly, died soon after, and the house was a white elephant on your hands for years.”
The original owner, however, could not have been affected by her thoughts had he been positive in the truth, nor her husband, but they were both under Karmic law. The woman should have said (feeling the great desire for the house), “Infinite Intelligence, give me the right house, equally as charming as this, the house which is mine by divine right.” The divine selection would have given perfect satisfaction and brought good to all. The divine pattern is the only safe pattern to work by.
Desire is a tremendous force, and must be directed in the right channels, or chaos ensues. In demonstrating, the most important step is the first step, to “ask aright.” Man should always demand only that which is his by divine right. To go back to the illustration: Had the woman taken this attitude: “If this house I desire is mine, I cannot lose it, if it is not, give me its equivalent,” the man might have decided to move out, harmoniously (had it been the divine selection for her) or another house would have been substituted.
Anything forced into manifestation through personal will is always “ill-got,” and has “ever bad success.” Man is admonished, “My will (God) be done not thine,” and the curious thing is, man always gets just what he desires when he does relinquish personal will, thereby enabling Infinite Intelligence to work through him.’
You don’t want anymore drama and creating more karma only lengthens your journey because, clearing karma is such an important part of the Ascension process. You don’t want to add to your karma, you want to balance it because you only need to balance 51%* of your karma in order to be able to start your Ascension.
*According to Twin Flame and Ascension teacher of the first hour Elizabeth Clare Prophet
Why you can’t manifest Twin Flame union
This is also why you shouldn’t work towards manifesting Twin Flame union (which isn’t possible anyway), because of multiple reasons, such as:
- This may actually not be your Twin Flame, did you know that around 30% of the people believing to have met their Twin, have been wrong about their Twin Flame connection according to this poll I recently took among my readers.
- Even if this person is 100% certain your Twin Flame, that doesn’t give you the right to force your ego desires on to them.
- You risk creating more karma and unsatisfactory results this way.
- You can’t manifest Twin Flame union, it’s created from within as a spill over to reality of your own inner union with your soul.
I know this may be confusing to you because UNION is the main commodity being sold in the Twin Fame industry. Every product or service seems to be geared at attaining union with the Twin Flame as the end-result. This is because 99% of the Twin Flame websites and teacher/healers are selling you what you WANT, not what you NEED.
The reason why you can’t MANIFEST Twin Flame union is because it is a byproduct of the Twin Flame journey and can only be attained from within, as an outer reflection of the unity you have attained within with your soul.
As tempting as it may be to buy ‘Law of Attraction’ inspired products and services that help you visualize, energetically create or in other ways promise to help you manifest union. These products and service don’t deliver because you CANNOT BYPASS the spiritual process of doing the inner work (which I teach you step by step in the Inner Union Soul Alchemy Program in the Twin Flame Tribe) and they also tend to create adverse effects through unresolved gunk and sludge seeping through in your connection because you failed to address it or karmic consequences because you transgressed spiritual law.
How to really raise your vibrational frequency
Another pet peeve of mine that I find really deceiving and annoying within the Twin Flame Industry is the various products and services that promise to raise your vibrational frequency, that simply CANNOT DELIVER because they are based on nothing but magical thinking.
Seriously people, you cannot raise your vibrational frequency in a significant way through listening to guided meditations, Twin Flame clearings or any of that kind of stuff.
What is lowering your vibrational frequency to begin with are all the (past life) unresolved trauma that you carry with you subconsciously and therefore vibrationally. The ONLY way to release this is to face it, not to pretend it’s not there or to pretend that you can just tell it to be gone – because that is only resistance.
What you resist, persists – it cannot be cleared out this way.
There is another famous Carl Jung (psychiatrist and psychoanalyst) quote:
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”
It’s actually a compilation of two quotes mashed together.
“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own souls. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” ~Carl Jung, Psychology and Alchemy, Page 99.
“Seldom, or perhaps never, does a marriage develop into an individual relationship smoothly and without crises; there is no coming to consciousness without pain”. ~Carl Jung, Contributions to Analytical Psychology, P. 193
Way too many people use the ‘Law of Attraction’ as an excuse NOT to face their inner darkness and to flee into imagining figures of light to ‘align’ to their enlightenment, but it doesn’t work that way. They are fleeing into fantasy and unreality, that does not obtain them the results they seek.
The only road to true enlightenment leads through overcoming the ‘darkness’ within and rediscovering our own bright light at our core. People love to think that there are multiple roads that lead to Rome and although that is true in many cases, it’s not true here.
There is no coming to consciousness without (facing your) pain. There is no enlightenment without understanding the illusion of the darkness perceived within and there is no raising your vibrational frequency without releasing the trauma energy you still carry with you from you more recent and even ancient past (lives).
Please understand that if it were all SO EASY as many Twin Flame teachers claim, there would be so many more Twin Flames in union. Easy sells, but easy doesn’t get results. Just think about other industries such as the diet industry. Remember light products? The answer to every overweight person’s dream! All you needed to do was buy the light version of your favorite product and you would automatically reduce your calorie intake. What happened in reality? Not only did light products NOT work to reduce weight, because of the chemical ingredients that made them ‘light‘ they created a long list of serious side effects and disease instead.
In the same way do quick fixes in the Twin Flame landscape not only NOT work, they also create more drama in your life and connection and potentially even more karma that sets you back in your journey because the Twin Flame journey doesn’t stand on it’s own – it’s a series of initiations on your Ascension path. Twin Flame union can definitely be attained, but not through skipping the spiritual process necessary in order to attain it.
I pray this article serves you and helps you get a better understanding of both spiritual law as well as the true nature of the Twin Flame journey. Don’t allow yourself to be sold short by your own desires or through others. There are no easy shortcuts or quick fixes that will magically manifest Twin Flame union. It’s a state of consciousness and state of being one first needs to attain within oneself (for the sake of oneself and not for the sake of union with the Twin). Check out my products and services if you are interested in creating inner union. You won’t find any quick fixes, but instead long term solutions that will help you create the life that you dream of with your Twin Flame or someone better (your partner by Divine Right).
If you are interested and excited to know how we can help you in your Twin Flame journey and Ascension process, check out the Tribe Mystery School for modern-day Initiates on the Twin Flame and Ascension path. In our signature program, the Inner Union Soul Alchemy Program we walk you step by step through the process of coming into inner union with your own soul. Inner union, is a prerequisite for true Twin Flame union and creating ‘Heaven on Earth’ from the inside out. You can also book an Akashic Record Clearing to release deep pain and trauma (including fears and false beliefs) from this and previous lifetimes.
Sending you love and light on your Ascension path and Divine partnership journey, you are forever protected and guided. All is well.
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