Twin Flame Separation, is all lost? Or are you secretly preparing for Union?

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 The separation stage

Although I don’t believe in fixed stages that you have to go through consecutively to reach Twin Flame union, it can be that you have reached a place in your Twin Flame journey where the running and chasing stopped, but you are also not together or on the other end of the scale able to walk away from the connection.

You are in no man’s land, you still haven’t found the EJECT button, that will catapult you out of this journey (I’m sorry, I don’t think there is one). Yet at the same time, the connection you had with your twin seems dead in the physical reality. At least when you were chasing and the other person was running, you would have these sweet moments of reassurance in between, where your twin would let you know (be it reluctantly maybe) they were still in it together with you.

When you are in Twin Flame Separation, it seems like ALL IS LOST and that the connection that you felt was an illusion to begin with. It might very well be that your twin has actually told you that they don’t love you anymore or deny the connection in any other way, which in any other relationship would be your cue to move on. However in this case, your biggest problem being that you feel and I can hear Adele singing in my head while I type this ‘That for me it isn’t over…

When you can relate to this and you are in a Twin Flame relationship, which is a big word because when you are at this possible part of the journey there seems to not even be a mutual connection anymore, let alone any kind of relationship. It just feels like you are stuck and can’t let go, while the other person has seemed to have long moved on.

How do you know it isn’t over yet?

Of course you just feel it in yourself that it isn’t over yet, but like always on the Twin Flame Journey you get massive signs from the Universe. In my own personal journey I have found that every time I have tried to really walk away from everything I would get signs or just literally be pushed back to my twin.

Recently after losing all hope in my Twin Flame Union, I had started to be open to dating again. So the first person to ask me out, had actually been asking me out for the past two years and finally I said yes. In the meantime he had recently met his own Twin Flame. I see no use in then two Twin Flame stayers, killing time together waiting for their divine counterpart to return, so I declined.

Shortly afterwards I met a guy at the gym. I have been at that gym for five years and never met anyone. As soon as this guy looked into my eyes, I saw he was interested and I looked away. He instantly started moving in on me and finally found an excuse to come and talk to me. Long story short, he gave me his number and we started talking outside of the gym.

He asked me out and I was feeling doubts but couldn’t quite put my finger on it. In order to avoid him I even went into the gym a day earlier and guess who pops up next to me as I start my exercise, this guy. Who now as he is like so close in my energy field, gets my hormones raging. My god, my heart rate shot up to 200 there was such an amazing strong chemistry between us. I was like the Universe is really making an effort, to bring this guy to me. Let’s see what this is all about…

So, when he asked me out again I said yes.

The next day we drove out to the beach together and in the car I tell him about my twin. He thanks me for my honesty and totally recognizes what I am saying as he has also met his Twin Flame and feels exactly the same way! We have an amazing 7 hour first date, that was romantic, fun, deep and hot. It was in no way the electric feeling I get when my twin and I touch, but let’s just say as we were walking hand in hand on the beach that day – sexual energy was coursing through our bodies, it was extremely intense.

As we were cuddling on the beach the energy between us got so intense, and we didn’t kiss or touch each other sexually – still I literally felt him entering my body energetically. So I said to him, well we don’t even need to sleep with each other anymore because you just came inside of me energetically, it’s already done. To which he said, ‘Yeah, I felt that – that’s why I took distance.‘ At that moment his phone goes off and it’s his twin texting him ‘I love you, baby. I miss you.‘ They are separated at the moment, but her timing shows how she felt what was going on.

This was also really a decisive moment for me. This was the best first date, a girl could ever ask for and it really showed me that if my twin and I would not come back together as a couple, I would still be able to experience romance in my life. Before that I could hardly imagine this possible, however if given the choice between being together with someone else’s twin or my own twin – the choice is easy.

As the Universe was only bringing me men who were already in a Twin Flame relationship even if they were not together with their twin at the moment, it pointed me straight back to my own twin because why settle for someone else’s twin if I can be with my own divine counterpart?

And what are the chances of being asked out by two random guys and they have both met their Twin Flame?! That would be such a coincidence, and the Universe doesn’t do coincidences.

It was interesting to hear this twin talk about the woman he loves, even though he is the one who initiated the separation between them. I was able to witness him handling this strong attraction he felt towards me, but now experiencing how intoxicating strong chemistry can be, I was also able to understand how a strong attraction had been enough for my twin to distract himself from me – but not strong enough to forget about me while he was secretly seeing someone else in 2015.

This experience and a lot of other previous signs that I had not dared to really put my faith in, so afraid to trust again and strike out – now had me recommit to my own union with my divine counterpart.

I believe if you are still getting Twin Flame signs and encountering situations that point you back to your twin, it isn’t over yet – because if it was really over the Universe would just make it crystal clear to you. You would just be able to move on, so if you are still getting massive signs and being directed back to your twin – trust that in any case there is still something for you left to do in this area of your life and that you are still on the road to union – whether that leads to a physical marriage/relationship form or not.

Even if you and your twin did not decide on physical union for this lifetime, riding this thing out to the end will always benefit and bless you beyond your wildest dreams. The journey is a big blessing in itself, regardless if physical union manifests or not.

You can’t lose.

When union hasn’t come, it’s because YOU are not ready yet too

It’s a trap for the twin openly wanting the connection and a physical relationship with their divine counterpart, to believe that they are ready for the Twin Flame Union and merely waiting for their twin to get with the program. Basically saying, that it’s only their twin keeping them out of union in whichever way they perceive the other doing this.

It’s the biggest ego illusion.

If you are not in Twin Flame Union, it means you are not ready yet either.

Because if you would be ready, so would your twin and it would have manifested. You can rest assured that wherever your twin is now, is a reflection of where you are. If he or she is struggling in a certain area, in some way or form you will also be facing that same issue but just not seeing it. The closer I have gotten to union, the more I have witnessed that even if I could have sworn that I was not like what I saw in my twin – subconsciously there was always something hiding there that was an exact reflection of my twin.

How often have you found that your twin and you have been doing the same thing in the same time without knowing the other was doing it. In 2015 my twin and I both became serious about exercise and by the time we saw each other in India, we had lost around the same amount of weight.

This year I went global with my companies and moved on to the International market, with a complete new re-branding of my brand identity. Guess what my twin did this summer? He re-branded his companies and got himself a UK number as his incoming business call number. End result of 2016 for both of us is much better organized and structured businesses with a complete new look and feel.

I could have sworn when my twin opened the door an inch again at the end of July, that I had cleared all there was to clear between me and him. I even felt frustrated then that all my hard work on myself had, led to such meager results in our physical reality. We were right back where we had left off, me talking to him. Him reading everything I write diligently, but not being able to respond. I was pissed off with the situation to say the least. Over a period of eight weeks of me talking, him listening and not saying anything back – I pushed him so hard towards taking the leap of faith and really continuing where we left off, last time – which was continuing our life together. He shut off Viber again.

Since then, I have been on one giant purge.

Before I had thought that there was nothing left to be healed again. I thought I had done all the work and that maybe it just was not meant to be. Since then I have healed and cleared stuff I really had no clue, that it was still there, lurking in the dark.

Especially the month of October has been one healing spree.

I was sharing in the Online Twin Community recently on a live stream that even though I am very active in my own healing, even for me October has been insane. I have had so many sessions, some coming out of nowhere completely unplanned and I have healed and purged so much.

Let me repeat one more time, I could have sworn that I was completely ready for union and that I had faced all my dragons and demons. That was so not true.

One of the most astounding breakthroughs was accessing our runner life, the core reason my twin flame is being triggered by his love for me. I had gone to work out something completely different I had thought, regarding pregnancies and as I went back into a past life I came into a life that I was a 29 year old woman, waiting for my secret lover of the past three years. He was 50, married and father of five children. I had just found out I was bearing his child and I felt my life was over, as I was unmarried and society would not accept me having a child out of wedlock. The secret lover was my Twin Flame, that night as I was lying outside waiting for him, his wife who had just discovered the affair came instead. She had killed me in blind rage and everything happened so fast, I didn’t even register that I had died. As I was lying there in the session re-experiencing the memory of the moments leading up to my past life death, I felt this heavy disoriented feeling, hardly able to speak coherently.

My twin had blamed himself for my death, believing his love for me and his inability to stay away from me was why I had been killed. I am not even sure if he knew I was pregnant with his child at that time. The wife from then, is incarnated in his current day life and is an important person to him in this life again.

In this life my twin has done his best to stay away from me, not always succeeding, but it is a strong urge he has felt – that he needed to stay away from me.

He has said it in many ways over the years.

“I’m staying away from you, so that you can get the love that you deserve.” In an email he sent me three months before I arrived in India
“I have tried to stay away from you, but your persistence got to me.” The first night we slept in each others arms…
“I am doing my very best to stay away from you.” When I said that as long as he is in my life, I won’t be able to be open to someone else…

If you are still in a deadlock and nothing is shifting, it means that there is just more stuff that needs to be cleared. Because if you were really done, Twin Flame Union would show up in your outer reality. It’s inevitable.

Since March 2015 I have felt a baby boy wanting to come to me and my twin and if there was ever a subconscious believe/experience/feeling that was keeping this out of manifestation then it was this lifetime together.

In fact in December 2015 when my twin and I were alone in a hotel suite in India and my cycle had shifted so I was in my ovulation exactly at that moment, my twin told me “Until I am sure that I can stay with you, I don’t want to make you pregnant.”  so instead of making love to me, he held me in his arms and we talked, kissed and cuddled for hours… In light of this uncovered past life together it makes perfect sense that things went the way they went between us and that me talking about a baby together, had brought him closer and closer to me even though he had tried to distract himself by seeing someone else.

Everything had actually started between us two and a half years ago with him asking me “What do you want me to be in your life?” after he told me within two hours of our very first online date, that he loved me although it made no sense to him rationally he had said, but that was what he felt. I had not been able to answer him truthfully at that moment, so I said nothing. It took me three days to know without a shadow of a doubt that I wanted him as my husband and the father of my child. He was 24 at the time and answered that it was the happiest day of his life, when I told him this and at the same time the saddest day because he realized he could not give this to me in this lifetime and his running started….

It was the memory of this lifetime that was triggered that started the purging process between us that we have been in the past 2,5 years, healing layer for layer of ancient wounding and trauma.

Who is really the unconscious twin?

Often the twin ‘running’ away from the connection in the 3D reality is considered the unawakened or unconscious twin, but I have personally come to doubt this view. First of all because considering your twin unawakened or unconscious, is an ego attempt to place yourself above them and makes union impossible because you don’t consider your twin your equal.

I have seen a different reality in which I see that it is the Divine Masculine (in a male or female body) that sends the Twin Flame impulse for reunion from the 5D to the Divine Feminine (be it in a man or woman) in order for her to ground this 5D union in the physical reality we experience. Which would make total sense because that is what the Divine Feminine does, she births things in the physical be it babies or in this case Holy union with the divine counterpart.

The fact that your twin does not seem to be doing anything towards Twin Flame Union in the 3D reality and that it feels like you are doing all the work for both of you, by yourself is one of the biggest illusions on the Twin Flame Journey.

What I saw in my own journey is that as I was knocking myself out in 3D and he seemed to only want me to move on and forget about him, he was showing up in 5D anywhere and everywhere to help me in clearing the shit between us and birthing this whole new me, business and life that I have stepped into since I returned from our physical time together in India.

In that same time frame he has also been working his ass off in the energetic realm, showing up at multiple healing sessions with different healers assisting me in my personal healing work and most of all assisting me in re-embodying my own healer qualities which has led me to now work with the Gangsta Goddesses energy and help my clients clean up the gunk and sludge from this life and past lives that are keeping them out of alignment of the things they desire most, be it Twin Flame reunions, successful businesses, attracting love or attracting more money. The Gangsta Goddesses energy helps them release everything that is keeping their heart’s desire out of manifestation.

young man sitting on stepsSo the question is then is the unconscious twin really that unconscious or does it just mean that they are working in the unconscious and the unseen? What if their 3D behavior is nothing more then a tool to bring up all the mutual inner wounding, so that it can be felt, healed and cleared for good? What if their higher self wants union just as much as you do and is in fact banging their head against the wall in 5D because he/she is trying to get you to the core wounding between you two and you are sitting there believing your work is done and waiting for your twin to wake up?!


That is where a lot of the Feminine Divine twins are at at the moment, waiting for the Divine Masculine to do something, while in the mean time not seeing that they are missing their cue to do their part and are actually themselves holding up the reunion they so crave for.

Twin Flame Separation is the ultimate illusion

What if Twin Flame Separation is nothing but a preparation for Twin Flame Union?

Because you are not getting the confirmation from your twin in the physical reality that they are still in this together with you, it’s easy to feel that the connection is lost. Because their 3D behavior is bringing up all your unhealed shit, it’s easy to think they don’t love you anymore like they once did. But the truth is that Twin Flame Separation is the ultimate illusion.

It’s designed in this way because if you knew union was a sure thing, you would sit back and not do the work. But what if while you are experiencing the illusion of separation and everything it triggers inside of you, secretly you and your divine counterpart are being prepared for Twin Flame Union? What if it is all designed this way, to bring up the gunk and sludge from the deepest layers of your psyche and that this was the only way you would be able to go this deep, by fully believing the illusion?

It’s always darkest just before the dawn… What if Twin Flame Separation is nothing but the darkness before the dawn of Twin Flame Union?

‘Every great work, every big accomplishment, has been brought into manifestation through holding to the vision, and often just before the big achievement, comes apparent failure and discouragement.’ 

Florence Scovel Shinn

Nowhere in the Twin Flame Journey does apparent failure seem so real.

Nowhere in the journey can you feel this discouraged and ready to give up.

‘Before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master the lessons we’ve learned as we’ve moved toward that dream. That’s the point at which most people give up. It’s the point at which, as we say in the language of the desert, one ‘dies of thirst just when the palm trees have appeared on the horizon.’

Paulo Coelho
The Alchemist

What if instead of at the end of the connection, you are in reality almost near the start of your Twin Flame Union?

What if all that is needed is just a shift in perception? What if you could clearly see, that union is there waiting for you? I pray that reading this article will help you make this shift, to step out of your doubt and into full faith and believe that your union is there already on it’s way to manifest in your physical reality.

I think Twin Flame Separation is the moment where the Universe tests our faith in the Divine, in ourselves, in each other and in our union. It’s a time in which we are asked to fully believe in a 5D reality that only we can see and manifest it in the 3D physical. It’s where most twins get stuck or give up, because they get lost in the illusion of separation. But what if this potential give up moment, is actually the moment we should push through and act as if Union is already achieved?

You are so close, all you need to do is push through….

We Only Manifest Thoughts We BELIEVE! says Abraham Hicks.

Believe that union with your beloved is your destiny, see through the illusion of the separation. See that you are both working towards Twin Flame Union, both in different realms. The Divine Masculine is working in the unseen and the Divine Feminine is working in the visible physical reality, they both want the union. They are both putting in the work. Union is being forged in this moment, where it looks and feels like all is lost. The question is will you recommit to your twin and your union? Or will you buy into the illusion and give up?

There is such a push at the moment from the Universe to help twin’s come together in union, the Universe wants to bring you together because this love is much larger than the two of you. Your Twin Flame Love is a blessing to the whole world, not just a gift to you and your twin. The difficult times we all went through at the beginning of 2016 and before, all served to get you ready for this time in space. Can you look back and see how you have been being prepared all along?

It’s your time now.

Wishing you and your divine counterpart a miraculous and loving birthing of your 5D union in the physical dimension. ❤❤

If you would like me to help you access the very last layers of gunk and sludge (the false beliefs) that are keeping you and your twin out of harmony and from being able to see the reunion that is yours by Divine right, then I can assist you in a Twin Flame Reunion Journey to access the core wounding that is keeping you both stuck in no man’s land, when you are in fact almost home.

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Lots of love,

Sabriyé Dubrie

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Sabriyé Ayana is the leading expert on the Twin Flame journey and inner union process. As a Twin Flame leader, teacher and healer she helps Twin Flames understand that this journey is not just about creating a fairy-tale and they lived happily ever after together... It's an initiation path to Ascension. Download the free Inner Union Soul Alchemy manuscript to find out more.