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Twin Flames throughout history
For those who think Twin Flame love is a fabrication of the New Age movement, you couldn’t be more wrong. The concept of Twin Flame love as well as Twin Flame couples has been around for centuries and centuries and today I want to share one of such stories with you.
Eros and Psyche is a story originally from Metamorphoses, written in the 2nd century AD by Lucius Apuleius Madaurensis. The tale concerns the overcoming of obstacles to the love between Psyche and Eros (also known as Cupid or Amor), and their ultimate union in a sacred marriage.
Now doesn’t that sound like a Twin Flame story to you? Overcoming the obstacles to love and an ultimate union in sacred marriage? Myths and Fairy-tales are known to have a deep impact on our psyche (originally meaning ‘soul’ or ‘Breath of life’). If you are interested in the spiritual interpretation of this myth read this article that I took the excerpt from below:
‘In the tale, Psyche, the human soul is still in the cave of illusion. Her sisters: complete cave dwellers who behave like envious sisters in fairy tales every where. Eros is the principle of desire for the good. Venus (or Aphrodite) is placer of difficulties in Psyche’s way. Psyche finally marries Cupid and becomes a goddess–the philosopher’s soul by pursing divine desires can become immortal. The myth of Psyche and Eros is a wake-up call to the Soul. On archetypal levels, this awakening can only occur through the call of the Beloved, represented in this story by Eros.’
This small excerpt only emphasizes even more how the story of these two Divine lovers, leads to the awakening of the soul in the physical through the call of the beloved. Everyone who is familiar with my work, knows that this is what I teach and the story of Eros and Psyche is the archetypal story of ALL Twin Flames since the beginning of time.
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The story of Eros and Psyche
There were once a king and queen, rulers of an unnamed city, who had three daughters of conspicuous beauty. The youngest and most beautiful was Psyche, whose admirers, neglecting the proper worship of the love goddess Venus, instead prayed and made offerings to her. It was rumored that she was the second coming of Venus, or the daughter of Venus from an unseemly union between the goddess and a mortal. Venus is offended, and commissions Cupid to work her revenge. Cupid is sent to shoot Psyche with an arrow so that she may fall in love with something hideous. He instead scratches himself with his own dart, which makes any living thing fall in love with the first thing it sees. Consequently, he falls deeply in love with Psyche and disobeys his mother’s order.
Although her two humanly beautiful sisters have married, the idolized Psyche has yet to find love. Her father suspects that they have incurred the wrath of the gods, and consults the oracle of Apollo. The response is unsettling: the king is to expect no human son-in-law, but rather a dragon-like creature who harasses the world with fire and iron and is feared by even Jupiter and the inhabitants of the underworld.
Psyche is arrayed in funeral attire, conveyed by a procession to the peak of a rocky crag, and exposed. Marriage and death are merged into a single rite of passage, a “transition to the unknown”. Zephyr the West Wind bears her up to meet her fated match, and deposits her in a lovely meadow (locus amoenus), where she promptly falls asleep.
The transported girl awakes to find herself at the edge of a cultivated grove (lucus). Exploring, she finds a marvelous house with golden columns, a carved ceiling of citrus wood and ivory, silver walls embossed with wild and domesticated animals, and jeweled mosaic floors. A disembodied voice tells her to make herself comfortable, and she is entertained at a feast that serves itself and by singing to an invisible lyre.
Although fearful and without the proper experience, she allows herself to be guided to a bedroom, where in the darkness a being she cannot see has sex with her. She gradually learns to look forward to his visits, though he always departs before sunrise and forbids her to look upon him. Soon, she becomes pregnant.
Violation of trust
Psyche’s family longs for news of her, and after much cajoling, Cupid, still unknown to his bride, permits Zephyr to carry her sisters up for a visit. When they see the splendor in which Psyche lives, they become envious, and undermine her happiness by prodding her to uncover her husband’s true identity, since surely as foretold by the oracle she was lying with the vile winged serpent, who would devour her and her child.
One night after Cupid falls asleep, Psyche carries out the plan her sisters devised: she brings out a dagger and a lamp she had hidden in the room, in order to see and kill the monster. But when the light instead reveals the most beautiful creature she has ever seen, she is so startled that she wounds herself on one of the arrows in Cupid’s cast-aside quiver. Struck with a feverish passion, she spills hot oil from the lamp and wakes him. He flees, and though she tries to pursue, he flies away and leaves her on the bank of a river.
There she is discovered by the wilderness god Pan, who recognizes the signs of passion upon her. She acknowledges his divinity (numen), then begins to wander the earth looking for her lost love.
Psyche visits first one sister, then the other; both are seized with renewed envy upon learning the identity of Psyche’s secret husband. Each sister attempts to offer herself as a replacement by climbing the rocky crag and casting herself upon Zephyr for conveyance, but instead is allowed to fall to a brutal death.
Wanderings and trials
In the course of her wanderings, Psyche comes upon a temple of Demeter, and inside finds a disorder of grain offerings, garlands, and agricultural implements. Recognizing that the proper cultivation of the gods should not be neglected, she puts everything in good order, prompting a theophany of Demeter herself. Although Psyche prays for her aid, and Demeter acknowledges that she deserves it, the goddess is prohibited from helping her against a fellow goddess. A similar incident occurs at a temple of Hera. Psyche realizes that she must serve Venus herself.
Venus revels in having the girl under her power, and turns Psyche over to her two handmaids, Worry and Sadness, to be whipped and tortured. Venus tears her clothes and bashes her head into the ground, and mocks her for conceiving a child in a sham marriage. The goddess then throws before her a great mass of mixed wheat, barley, poppyseed, chickpeas, lentils, and beans, demanding that she sort them into separate heaps by dawn. But when Venus withdraws to attend a wedding feast, a kind ant takes pity on Psyche, and assembles a fleet of insects to accomplish the task. Venus is furious when she returns drunk from the feast, and only tosses Psyche a crust of bread. At this point in the story, it is revealed that Cupid is also in the house of Venus, languishing from his injury.
At dawn, Venus sets a second task for Psyche. She is to cross a river and fetch golden wool from violent sheep who graze on the other side. These sheep are elsewhere identified as belonging to the Helios. Psyche’s only intention is to drown herself on the way, but instead she is saved by instructions from a divinely inspired reed, of the type used to make musical instruments, and gathers the wool caught on briers.
For Psyche’s third task, she is given a crystal vessel in which to collect the black water spewed by the source of the rivers Styx and Cocytus. Climbing the cliff from which it issues, she is daunted by the foreboding air of the place and dragons slithering through the rocks, and falls into despair. Zeus himself takes pity on her, and sends his eagle to battle the dragons and retrieve the water for her.
Psyche and the underworld
The last trial Venus imposes on Psyche is a quest to the underworld itself. She is to take a box (pyxis) and obtain in it a dose of the beauty of Proserpina, queen of the underworld. Venus claims her own beauty has faded through tending her ailing son, and she needs this remedy in order to attend the theatre of the gods (theatrum deorum).
Once again despairing of her task, Psyche climbs a tower, planning to throw herself off. The tower, however, suddenly breaks into speech, and advises her to travel to Lacedaemon, Greece, and to seek out the place called Taenarus, where she will find the entrance to the underworld. The tower offers instructions for navigating the underworld:
The airway of Dis is there, and through the yawning gates the pathless route is revealed. Once you cross the threshold, you are committed to the unswerving course that takes you to the very Regia of Orcus. But you shouldn’t go emptyhanded through the shadows past this point, but rather carry cakes of honeyed barley in both hands, and transport two coins in your mouth.
The speaking tower warns her to maintain silence as she passes by several ominous figures: a lame man driving a mule loaded with sticks, a dead man swimming in the river that separates the world of the living from the world of the dead, and old women weaving. These, the tower warns, will seek to divert her by pleading for her help: she must ignore them. The cakes are treats for distracting Cerberus, the three-headed watchdog of Orcus, and the two coins for Charon the ferryman, so she can make a return trip.
Their reunion and sacred marriage
Everything comes to pass according to plan, and Proserpina grants Psyche’s humble entreaty. As soon as she reenters the light of day, however, Psyche is overcome by a bold curiosity, and can’t resist opening the box in the hope of enhancing her own beauty. She finds nothing inside but an “infernal and Stygian sleep,” which sends her into a deep and unmoving torpor.
Meanwhile, Cupid’s wound has healed into a scar, and he escapes his mother’s house by flying out of a window. When he finds Psyche, he draws the sleep from her face and replaces it in the box, then pricks her with an arrow that does no harm. He lifts her into the air, and takes her to present the box to Venus.
He then takes his case to Zeus, who gives his consent in return for Cupid’s future help whenever a choice maiden catches his eye. Zeus has Hermes convene an assembly of the gods in the theater of heaven, where he makes a public statement of approval, warns Venus to back off, and gives Psyche ambrosia, the drink of immortality, so the couple can be united in marriage as equals. Their union, he says, will redeem Cupid from his history of provoking adultery and sordid liaisons. Zeus’s word is solemnized with a wedding banquet.
How their story, is the story of ALL Twin Flames
As I will cast light on the different stages of this story from the Twin Flame perspective, you will see that Psyche and Eros are the archetypal Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine that we encounter within our own Twin Flame connection. As the Divine Feminine you will greatly recognize yourself in Psyche’s journey, while if your counterpart is the Divine Masculine you will recognize the path of Eros as theirs.
Psyche can’t find love
For many Twin Flames who have either never been in a relationship or have had relationships before, they have not been able to find love. Those never in a relationship have never met ‘the one’, but even those who have been with a partner have been disillusioned in love or realized it never was love when they meet their Divine counterpart in this lifetime.
It is said that Psyche is ‘too beautiful’ and therefore no one dares approach her, the same applies to many of the men and women I work with – despite the fact that they are very desirable they can’t seem to find their match. This is for a large part because they know what they want, deep and conscious love and that limits the amount of fish in their relationship pond to fish from. There are plenty of fish looking for unconscious love and even more for sexual connection but that’s not the kind of love that the initiate on the Twin Flame path is seeking.
Eros (Cupid) is the first to fall in love
Eros behaves in this story pretty much like most Divine Masculines behave in the Twin Flame journey, he falls in love first (recognizes his Divine counterpart first). In the Twin Flame dynamic, it is the Divine Masculine that initiates the union process. This happens on an energetic level and therefore even if your Twin Flame seems oblivious to you, this doesn’t mean that they are oblivious to you on an energetic level.
Just look at the story of Psyche and Eros, he remains unseen to Psyche until she out of fear shines the light on him to make sure he is not a vile serpent. On Eros side, he responds pretty much the same as many Divine Masculines despite his ‘love’ for Psyche he runs away when she tries to move the relationship to a deeper level of love and commitment, from unconscious pleasure in the dark to truly seeing each other in the light.
Let’s face it, Eros is a runner. As soon as Psyche tries to see the real him, he flees to his mother/lover. Both are still in an immature state of being here and Eros first needs to become a man, by going back to his old ways (his mother’s house). Something we see very prevalent in the Divine Masculine’s journey, where he goes back to his old ways after meeting his Divine Counterpart.
Funeral, the death of what is not love
But before Psyche is even brought to Eros by the Zephyr wind, she is first brought to the rocky crag to await her fate. This symbolizes the leaving behind, the death of what is not love. Almost every Divine Feminine that I have spoken, had made the choice to experience TRUE LOVE prior to meeting her Twin Flame.
When we chose for true love, it automatically means that we have to let go of everything that is not love and that is like a death or a funeral. We leave behind what we no longer want, but just like Psyche we face an uncertain future. What will true love look like? And will it ever be ours? Plus our own attachments to what love is not, need to die as well in order to be able to say yes when true love presents itself.
Trusting that which you can’t see
Psyche is brought into a lovely meadow and castle where a feast serves itself and voices speak and reassure her, yet there is no one physically present. Again a very common theme for those on the Twin Flame journey, maybe not as overtly magical as Psyche’s experience but nonetheless we are called to trust in realities we cannot yet see.
As much of the Twin Flame journey as part of the Ascension path is about leaving behind our old 3D paradigm reality (this does not mean physical reality!) and shifting into the new 5D paradigm reality opening up to us as a physical experience – we have to learn to trust in the unseen. This is even more relevant when you realize that the old 3D paradigm is based on ‘seeing is believing‘, not until something has manifested or can be proven in the physical is it real and an important part of this journey and our Ascension path is removing this false belief programming. For in reality, the spiritual truth is that what you belief will become your physical experience.
A taste of paradise
This is something we all recognize in the Twin Flame experience, that meeting the Twin Flame and consummating this love to any degree possible gives one a taste of paradise. But the problem is that it’s an unconscious state of paradise, as is illustrated in the story of Eros and Psyche. The lovers are together and consummating their love, but all is happening in the dark of night and Eros leaves Psyche every morning before the break of day.
What many Divine Feminine’s will recognize here is that everything is happening on the Divine Masculine’s terms. He is controlling the whole show and if that is the case, it is only because the Divine Feminine is allowing him to do so as she is also still in an immature state. Yes, there is the aspect of paradise but at the same time it is imperfect – something that many Divine Feminine’s who’s counterpart is in a third party relationship will recognize. Even more so if they are in an active affair and playing the role of the other woman.
The sisters, casters of doubt
We can feel here that Eros is not fully committed to Psyche at this point, because he is hiding his true self from her. There is no full transparency, trust and therefor no full intimacy. He is with one foot in this relationship and off during the daytime living a secret life that Psyche knows nothing of nor does she partake in it. We really see this split in two and the mask that many Divine Masculine’s wear to hide their true identity.
Psyche at some point is no longer satisfied with the bread crumbs Eros is willing to give her, she wants more. She wants equality. She wants to know her husband and not only share sexual bliss with him. She wants to know all of him, but because Eros is her Divine mirror she also projects her inner fears on him which is the driving force behind her desire to see his true identity. As she is still in the immature state, and doesn’t know her true self she projects her own fears on him. When she does hold the lamp to his face she sees his inner beauty and recognizes his divinity, it triggers all her subconscious fears and false beliefs about herself and especially her insecurities. Is she worth such a Divine creature as her husband?
‘But when the light instead reveals the most beautiful creature she has ever seen, she is so startled that she wounds herself on one of the arrows in Cupid’s cast-aside quiver. Struck with a feverish passion, she spills hot oil from the lamp and wakes him. He flees, and though she tries to pursue, he flies away and leaves her on the bank of a river.’
Interestingly according to metaphysics teacher Florence Scovel Shinn; ‘The lamp symbolizes man’s consciousness. The oil is what brings light or understanding.’
This moment in the story symbolizes the moment Psyche is awakened to the deeper truth of her connection and love for Eros. The moment the Divine Feminine figures out that her counterpart is her Twin Flame, she understands that there is a deeper depth but because she is still in her immature state she doesn’t have the wisdom and experience yet to maintain it. If Eros would not leave her in this moment, she would never gain that wisdom or experience and he would just like her stay stuck in his old ways. They would stay in their puer/puella (boy/girl) state and would not attain their sacred union.
This also applies to all Twin Flames, the separation phase is an important part of the inner transformation that needs to take place in order to align to the deeply desired union which is still being externalized and searched through the beloved.
In order to get Eros back Psyche starts out on a journey seeking the help of other God’s and Goddesses, until she realizes that no one can (or is allowed to) help her but Venus herself. Now remember Psyche is seen as the mortal or diminutive Venus, almost as if Psyche is the human 3D self and Venus the higher self or soul aspect (despite the fact that she plays the ‘bad guy’ in this story).
Through her initiations Psyche learns to know and trust herself. She finds her inner strength and much like those on the Twin Flame journey starts to see how all the Universe is conspiring to make her succeed even facing the seemingly impossible tasks Venus gives her. She is helped by ants, a magical reed, an eagle and even a speaking tower that help her overcome the challenges Venus places in front of her.
Here we see the same principle as in the Twin Flame journey, where the initiates path is guarded and guided by an unseen hand that shows us the way and helps us overcome our own obstacles and challenges. All of these initiations serve to prepare Psyche for her final task the journey into the underworld.
The journey into the underworld
The journey into the underworld is a rite of passage, it signifies the rebirth of the soul to the highest expression of itself. It is where we put into practice all that we have learned along the way and where we face the deepest hidden aspects of ourselves.
The interesting part in the Psyche story is that here she uses the beauty Persephone placed in the box for herself, which Venus had sent her to get as the final part of her initiation. Psyche wants to use the beauty for herself, to regain the love from Eros. Instead she falls into a deep sleep.
This is where it get’s interesting, because she falls asleep there is no energy going from her to Eros. It is as if she were dead. No ‘text messages’, no ‘phone calls’, no energy going his way and he picks up on it. Eros or Cupid is finally ready to break free from his mother’s house (representing old ways of doing things) and goes to find Psyche. For many Twin Flames this is how their journey proceeds as well, that the Divine Masculine comes forth after the Divine Feminine has given up on him and let go.
This is what most current Divine Feminines are waiting for, the awakening of their Divine Masculine, but as the story of Psyche and Eros shows us – this is impossible without the Divine Feminine truly doing her inner work. Many Divine Feminines think they are doing their inner work because they do their Twin Flame meditations and activations – thinking this will help. But the reality is that they have to face and work on their own often subconscious issues from the past instead of energetically trying to force union.
By doing her own inner work, because they are Divine counterparts and deeply connected on a soul level, her Divine Masculine is pulled into his own healing. This can’t be faked or forced, there are NO SHORTCUTS. When the Divine Feminine truly has overcome her own limiting programming this will work through to him as well. It is a deep inner process for both of them.
‘There is a “change of heart.” Eros moves from sexual objectification toward soulful love; Psyche from projection of her masculine qualities toward empowerment. Emotionally, they act out the dynamic of the puer/puella immature relationship in the meantime. This naturally leads toward active introspection on the mental level, which results in spiritual consciousness raising–a renewed sense of empathy and compassion.’
The sacred union
An important aspect of the Eros and Psyche story is that before they are unified in sacred marriage, Psyche is first made a Goddess by drinking Ambrosia – this allows her to enter into their union as an equal.
What this tells us is that the inner union with our own Divinity precedes the outer union with the beloved and that is really what the whole journey was about creating this inner union with our own soul, the as above, so below. Which then becomes mirrored back to us as within, so without.
The story of Cupid and Psyche is not a story of a romantic happy end, it’s a description of the journey each and every soul is on to fully wake up to itself in the physical form. Many people think that Ascension is about the soul leaving the body, but we already do that every time we die. True Ascension is about the soul descending into the body and thereby creating such a strong light-body that it transcends physical death when the time has come to leave the physical body. This breaks the bond of karma and rebirth, that the soul has been bound to by it’s own choice for the past eons and eons.
You see Eros and Psyche already had romance and therefor could have stayed in that imperfect paradise state that most earthly relationships find themselves in. It is through Psyche’s journey and Cupid’s awakening that they became the highest expression of themselves and each other’s equal. This opened the door to their sacred marriage, within and without.
‘This is what lies at the heart of Sol (Sun or Masculine) and Luna’s (Moon or feminine) journey now and it’s what makes them beyond prince and princess, or puer and puella, (boy and girl) and into the deepened dimension of king and queen.’ says Jay Ramsay about the alchemical union process in his book Crucible of Love: The Alchemy of Passionate Relationships.
I pray this article serves you. The story itself contains many more parallels to the Twin Flame journey that I did not touch upon and that you may see relevant in your unique journey. My intention for this article was to share the story with you and stir some deep remembrance in your own psyche. So many people moan and groan about the challenges of this journey, but that is only because they are so heavily focused on the romantic outcome – their and they lived happily ever after…. What the story of Eros and Psyche teaches us, is that there will be no happy end unless we evolve out of the immature and unripe (ego) state of being (puer/puella) and learn to see and express our own Divinity. Eros and Psyche are reunited in the end because they have both risen above their old tendencies and became the higher expression of king and queen in their evolution process.
However, before you grab hold onto the romantic outcome with your Twin Flame once more, on the deepest level Eros represents ‘love’ and Psyche ‘the soul’ and their story a merging back to Oneness of the soul into the source of all that is – which is love. Which is again inner union.
Inner union is and remains to be the key to true union with the beloved. It’s not the other way around, union with the Twin doesn’t necessarily lead to inner union within. For if that was the case, Psyche would have not had to go through her ordeal and you would not be here reading this article to try and understand your Twin Flame connection.
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Sending you love and light on your Ascension path and Divine partnership journey, you are forever protected and guided. All is well.
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