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This is part I of a three piece series on Twin Flame healing. I was asked to write an introduction to the healing aspects of the Twin Flame journey for the bigger groups on Facebook because many newbie twins struggle with this concept. Click on the pink links to read Part II and Part III of this series.
Romance is really only the cherry on top
As there are always new people finding the Twin Flame topic, it is important to reiterate in every article I write that even though this connection seems to be the epitome of all your romantic fantasies come true – especially in the beginning, romance is only the cherry on top.
This does not mean that you should just forget about romance for good and that it’s only meant for spiritual growth, because that would be misunderstanding the journey. It’s not just black and white, an either or scenario – that is exactly the old 3D paradigm that we are shifting out of. You are meant to have massive healing and spiritual growth AND have the amazing love affair you so desire.
In the new 5D paradigm there are unlimited possibilities, options and abundance – you CAN have it all in 5D. But first you need to get there (on your own). And when I say get there, I actually do not mean a place, 3D and 5D are NOT and never have been places – they are perceptions of reality. Or if you will they are the comfort level in which you experience the physical reality. 3D is also not down here and 5D up there which would make them locations again, 5D is meant to be experienced as your physical reality and is in fact like the VIP version of experiencing reality while 3D is more liked the cramped up, either too hot or too cold, overcrowded and uncomfortable seat in coach.
If you want to know more about why meeting your Twin Flame is not just another ‘boy meets girl’ story or a LGBT variation thereof, I recommend you download the free Inner Union Soul Alchemy manuscript. It explains why you and your twin chose to meet up in this lifetime and why this meeting turned both your worlds upside down. It might look like your twin is unaffected and has happily moved on, but trust me that is not the truth.
Why healing is such an important part of the Twin Flame journey
When you meet your Twin Flame in the physical world and that meeting does not have to be physical in order to initiate the upside down effect they will have on you (it’s about the vibrational connection) it immediately brings you into a 5D vortex together. It is entering this 5D vortex together that jumpstarts the whole process for both of you. This also happens when you meet online or only talk on phone, it’s the vibrational connection that is the catalyst of the purging process not actually being able to touch each other.
I said before that you need to get to 5D on your own and that is the whole thing, when you connect to your twin you spontaneously enter 5D together but it’s unsustainable because there is still so much wounding and false beliefs weighing you down individually in the denser 3D frequency energies. It is EXACTLY this wounding and the false beliefs you hold subconsciously that creates the disharmony that Twin Flame relationships seem to be infamous for. That’s not because it is a toxic relationship, it is because it is meant to trigger everything that is still keeping you locked into the old 3D paradigm. When you release all that unnecessary weight it naturally raises your vibrational frequency, which will allow you to enter 5D on your own.
This does not mean that you HAVE to first shift to 5D in order to have a physical relationship with your twin, because that’s not true. What is true is that the more you have healed and made the shift into anchoring 5D as your perception of reality, the more harmonious your connection with your twin becomes. In some ways being apart while working through your own inner sh*t is a blessing and protection of the connection because it keeps things from escalating beyond repair as your deepest and most painful wounds are being triggered.
Another aspect to you having to do it on your own is that the Twin Flame connection is 5D in nature and therefore does not fit the old 3D paradigm romantic love templates which are fear-based and codependent. As Twin Flames we have come to bring in new love and relationship templates and have come to collapse the old templates including codependency. This is why you need to get to 5D on your own and not only have access through the help of your twin, when you connect vibrationally.
You are not meant to be two halves that make a whole, you are meant to be whole in yourself and to become ONE as two wholes.
What is going on in our 3D reality is not what is really going on
Normally we tend to think that what is happening in our physical reality, is what is really going on but it hardly ever is. Florence Scovel Shinn, the grandmother of metaphysics calls this looking through outer appearances and that is what you especially need to do on the Twin Flame journey. Because what you think you are witnessing as reality, is much more complex than that.
I explained before that the Twin Flame connection triggers all the wounding and false beliefs that are keeping you locked into the old 3D paradigm conditioning, many of these wounds and false beliefs originate from lifetime and lifetimes back. It’s been so long ago, that we can’t connect the dots anymore in the here and now because all this stuff is stored subconsciously.
The subconscious mind doesn’t differentiate TIME, as far as the subconscious mind is concerned there is only NOW so if something was true three lifetimes back and you didn’t check that belief to see if it is still true for you today, the subconscious mind will act as if it is still true now and apply it to your current day reality.
In the here and now it often doesn’t make sense anymore and what you seem to be witnessing looks like a new never experienced reality or at best it reminds you of something that may have happened in this lifetime. When you take it personally it might even feel as if your Twin Flame is hurting you on purpose, but in reality the ‘appearing to be a new situation‘ with your twin is in fact triggering these subconscious stored wounds and false beliefs from all lifetimes, this one and previous ones.
That is their ONLY raison d’être, to trigger these deeply lodged subconscious wounds and false beliefs – everything that you were not able to deal with at that time has been stored in the subconscious until you were ready to deal with it. Your soul has decided you are ready now, hence it being triggered so you can bring it in your conscious awareness.
What will this actually look like in a real life scenario?
Now to make this less theoretical let me give you an example. Yesterday I was working with a client whose twin had just told his wife he had been having an affair for the past couple of years and the kids were more or less emotionally blackmailing the father to stay in the marriage with their mother. That was the 3D story.
We went into the Twin Flame Reunion journey and she quickly saw two past lives with each a scenario in which third party interference caused her twin to leave her, it took me a bit to get her to the core life that was having her keep this scenario on rinse and repeat. I had to push her a bit, but we got there and it was a twin unrelated life. She was a 5 year old and witnessed the brutal murder of her father and him being dragged away by his feet. It had imprinted a belief that she was powerless to the actions of others and it explained the abandonment she experienced because her father was her only family member then. It also explained why she recreated the combination of her twin abandoning her over and over again because of others – because this was the false belief that was creating her reality.
The client was astonished to realize that at a deep subconscious level she believed that she was powerless, despite the fact that she is an absolute fighter and survivor. She was even more shocked to realize that her twin had been mirroring her, her own wounding all this time. This was exactly what she had identified as HIS issue and it had taken me all I got to get her focus off of him, during the session and to focus on herself.
We can’t change our twin EVER, we can ONLY change our own subconscious programming and that changes OUR reality.
A crash course in how the subconscious mind works
What we believe and hold to be true inside ourselves, determines what we get to experience as a physical reality outside ourselves. When we change our inner beliefs and the accompanying emotions those beliefs generate, we alter our physical reality. The other people involved will either change their behavior or leave your reality, when you change the inner programming that attracted the playing out of that belief in the physical in the first place.
The client left the session knowing that instead of getting caught up on what it looked like on the outside, which she was completely entangled in before we started working together – that the only way out of this situation was to start stepping into her own power in every area of her life. I took her out of a situation that she felt completely out of control in, because we never can control the behaviors of others – into a place of empowerment where she realized that if she wanted to break this cycle of this belief manifesting in her life, she had to work on changing the programming inside of her that attracted these experiences.
Because once we identified the subconscious belief, the client was able to see how this same pattern was showing up EVERYWHERE in her life and not just with her twin. The way you do anything, is the way you do everything – which makes complete sense because just like a computer your subconscious will apply the same logic to all situations.
It really works pretty much like computer code logic and my dad was one of the first scientific programmers at the Vrije Universiteit in Amsterdam back in the 70’s so I grew up with this sh*t – he taught all of his daughters the basics of programming, even me the youngest years later when I was old enough to understand.
If (boolean condition) Then (consequent) Else (alternative) End If
In computer science, a Boolean expression is an expression in a programming language that produces a Boolean value when evaluated, i.e. one of true or false. The outcome of the evaluation true or false, triggers consequent actions.
This is what happens with subconscious beliefs as well, except that many beliefs we hold to be TRUE are actually FALSE (as our concrete example showed us the client was not powerless, she only believed to be powerless based on a past life trauma that she had not been able to address until now.) The subconscious does not differentiate between objectively true or subjectively true, so even if your subjective truth is objectively false it will act as if it is true anyway – because it is true for you.
In the Indian Vedic tradition they have the Sanskrit word Maya and the definition of that word gives the final piece to this puzzle. Wikipedia says: Māyā connotes a “magic show, an illusion where things appear to be present but are not what they seem” Māyā is also a spiritual concept connoting “that which exists, but is constantly changing and thus is spiritually unreal”, and the “power or the principle that conceals the true character of spiritual reality”.
Where is this all leading to?
Physical life here on Earth allows us to play out – live in the illusion that what we belief to be true inside ourselves is a reality even if what we believe is not objectively true – it gives us the chance to experience it as being true in order to learn what IS spiritually true and untrue. Because in the end only the objective truth is sustainable and that is when we wake up out of Maya, the illusion – when we realize the spiritual truth of things, the ultimate truth.
Now let me get a little biblical here, not that I am Christian because I don’t identify with any religion although each and everyone of them contains beautiful gems of truth. In the Bible in the book of Genesis we have the story of Adam and Eve and the fall from Eden after eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (click on this link if you want some Wikipedia background info), in Hebrew where this text originated from it didn’t literally mean good and evil, it meant EVERYTHING. The tree of the knowledge of everything.
Wikipedia continues to say that:
‘In Jewish tradition, the Tree of Knowledge and the eating of its fruit represents the beginning of the mixture of good and evil together. Before that time, the two were separate, and evil had only a nebulous existence in potential. While free choice did exist before eating the fruit, evil existed as an entity separate from the human psyche, and it was not in human nature to desire it.’
After eating the fruit from this tree, Adam and Eve were exiled from the Garden of Eden (5D Heaven on Earth) and brought into a reality of suffering and death, also known as 3D.
Let’s pair this up with the concept of Maya, we live in a FREE WILL universe and as this text let’s us know we were all programmed seeing only one power GOOD (love). Evil is an unreality, this is also why I do not believe in the dark forces. We were all coded with the Spiritual truth, but a truth does not become a truth until it is experienced as true in itself by the self. An un-experienced truth is nothing but a dogma, a principle or set of principles laid down by an authority as incontrovertibly true, which would violate the free will principle of creation right? So, we were given Maya as a way to test each and every Universal Spiritual truth for ourselves and through trial and error – gain the knowledge of everything while playing it out in the physical reality.
“God then clothes the nakedness of the man and woman, who have become god-like in knowing good and evil, from the garden lest they eat the fruit of a second tree, the tree of life, unmentioned up to this point, and live forever.” (Source Wikipedia)
I am pretty sure that lest is a wrong translation, because I believe that instead of it all going wrong here and it being the start of mortal sin and evil. The souls were supposed to incarnate in the physical to experience good and evil (everything) otherwise known as experiencing duality, in order to establish the spiritual truth as their own personal experience, instead of it being a pre-programmed dogma. From that exercise of practicing free will, they learn to align to Divine will of their own accord because they have experienced for themselves that it is the only real truth, all else is illusion. This aligning to Divine will calls for the transcending of the ego desires, which when they are transcended brings us back in the state we were in when we were in the Garden of Eden, but now of our own free will. We return as god-like beings, because our souls journey through lifetimes and lifetimes has given us the opportunity to experience everything and know the ultimate truth – that there is only ONE power and that is LOVE which all creation is born from.
This waking up out of Maya, ascension or shifting to 5D (read this post here on the ascension to the 5th dimension process), return to Eden – or whatever you want to call it, is what ALL the healing work on the Twin Flame journey is meant to facilitate. It is meant to wake you up to the authentic spiritual truth on all levels.
Now because this is complex material to understand, basically this article challenges many of the programming we have been taught to believe in by our 3D conditioning, I am going to leave it at this for this week and will continue next week in a part two of this article. This way the information from this article can sink in and prepare you for the next download in a week.
So stay tuned my lovelies….
Sending you love and light on your Ascension path and Divine partnership journey, you are forever protected and guided. All is well.
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